CHOP will be hosting its inaugural conference for families of children with pituitary and hypothalamic tumors. The conference will be held on March 16, 2019 in Philadelphia, USA and will feature a day of learning and sharing information related to the chronic aftermath of hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis disease including adrenal insufficiency, diabetes insipidus, hypothalamic obesity, sleep and energy dysfunction, sex hormone deficiencies, and problems related to neuropsychological development.
Registration is open and a group rate is offered for a nearby hotel. See link for information:
https://chop.cloud-cme.com/default.aspx?P=5&EID=876
Hope to see you there!
Tuesday, December 25, 2018
Monday, November 26, 2018
120) Letter to the Editor to Obesity now published
We have come a long way since the daily battles between the Kitchen Bitch and the HO Monster. I surely do not miss those days. Yet when I read about other people‘s battles, I am painfully reminded that the war against HO is far from over. I know that our case study had an “n” of only one, but I still hope to facilitate the process of helping others combat this rare obesity condition in all ways I can.
Here is a letter to the editor that I wrote to the journal, Obesity. I hope that it will help to educate and influence the attitude of prescribing physicians so that more HO sufferers can get the help they need. Since the publisher (Wiley) has some copyright restrictions on my sharing the final published article with social media and on blogs, I am sharing my pre-published and accepted manuscript; very little has been changed (only minor style edits) from the pre-published manuscript to the finalized version, link to Researchgate full article here: https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Eugenie_Hsu/publication/329187211/inline/jsViewer/5c03ea25a6fdcc1b8d502cd8
Hypothalamic Obesity Treatment Demands Thinking Outside the Box
Editor:
It was no surprise to read about the disappointing treatment outcomes in Rose et al.’s study describing the self-report data from the International Registry of Hypothalamic Obesity Disorders (1). The poor outcomes and the lack of effective treatment options informed by randomized controlled trials (RCTs) (2) make the clinical management of hypothalamic obesity (HO) very challenging indeed. Besides the severe cardiometabolic morbidities associated with HO (3), HO is also greatly responsible for the poor quality of life among its sufferers (4). As a mother to a boy with craniopharyngioma (CP)-HO and hyperphagia, I don’t need to read the medical literature to know about the torment of living with CP-HO.
My post-operative CP son was consumed with hunger and would stop at nothing to find food. His poor satiety was evidenced by his constant complaints of hunger and persistent efforts to steal and stash food. Without effective treatment for his severe hyperphagia and concurrent obesity, we resorted to enforcing lifestyle restrictions common to families with a child with Prader-Willi syndrome (PWS). Five years into intense dietary restrictions, food policing and lockdown, my son remained obese and I knew our restrictive lifestyle was unsustainable. Feeling frantic for a solution, I joined CP and PWS parent support groups and scoured the medical literature. Despite his having panhypopituitarism, I learned that not all of his hormones were being replaced, notably oxytocin. When I read that some of oxytocin’s functions matched my son’s untreated symptoms, I was determined to have him try it.
In 2016, my son began an experimental trial of intranasal oxytocin and ten weeks into the experiment, naltrexone was added.The successful 48-week experiment was published as a case report (5). After more than two years, my son has maintained his positive treatment outcomes: his current BMI is 22.8 and his appetite is normal. We have ceased our former food-restricted lifestyle. He has no adverse effects to oxytocin just as he has no adverse effects to his other replacement hormones.
Despite my son’s successful treatment outcome, our published case report, numerous pre-clinical studies on oxytocin’s effect on energy balance and weight loss (6), promising results from nascent clinical studies (7), the dearth of effective treatment, and the poor quality of life of HO sufferers, HO patients’ requests to their physicians for oxytocin are typically denied. Why? According to these patients’ physicians, oxytocin is “useful for lactation and labor induction only” or that “sufficient research is lacking” to justify a prescription for oxytocin.
A clinical trial testing oxytocin for CP-HO is now underway (NCT02849743). Yet while we impatiently await RCT-endorsed efficacious treatment for this rare condition, patients continue to suffer. As a mother who has seen her son transformed by a more novel approach, I hope that more HO patients are able to access atypical and promising treatments, such as oxytocin. Until HO sufferers can rely upon a gold standard intervention, I assert that successfully treating HO demands thinking outside-the-box with cutting edge approaches; indeed, I am glad that I did.
REFERENCES
1. Rose SR, Horne VE, Bingham N, Jenkins T, Black J, Inge T.Hypothalamic Obesity: 4 Years of the International Registry of Hypothalamic Obesity Disorders. Obesity 2018;0(0). doi:10.1002/oby.22315.
2. Ni W, Shi X. Interventions for the Treatment of Craniopharyngioma-Related Hypothalamic Obesity: A Systematic Review. World Neurosurg. 2018. doi:10.1016/j.wneu.2018.06.121.
3. Wang KW, Chau R, Fleming A, Banfield L, Singh SK, Johnston DL, Zelcer SM, Rassekh SR, Burrow S, Valencia M, de Souza RJ, Thabane L, Samaan MC. The effectiveness of interventions to treat hypothalamic obesity in survivors of childhood brain tumours: a systematic review. Obes. Rev. 2017. doi:10.1111/obr.12534.
4. Mortini P. Craniopharyngiomas: a life-changing tumor. Endocrine 2017. doi:10.1007/s12020-016-1192-2.
5. Hsu EA, Miller JL, Perez FA, Roth CL. Oxytocin and naltrexone successfully treat hypothalamic obesity in a boy post-craniopharyngioma resection. J. Clin. Endocrinol. Metab.2018;103(2). doi:10.1210/jc.2017-02080.
6. Skinner JA, Garg ML, Dayas C V., Fenton S, Burrows TL.Relationship between dietary intake and behaviors with oxytocin: A systematic review of studies in adults. Nutr. Rev. 2018. doi:10.1093/nutrit/nux078.
7. Olszewski PK, Klockars A, Levine AS. Oxytocin and potential benefits for obesity treatment. Curr. Opin. Endocrinol. Diabetes Obes. 2017. doi:10.1097/MED.0000000000000351.
If you want to see the article in its online form, you may click on this link but you will need to be a subscriber to the journal to see the article in its entirety. https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/pdf/10.1002/oby.22371
As I have mentioned before, I do not ask for any compensation or any special thanks for my writing or advocacy. However, if you care to support a wonderful not-for-profit organization that helps improve the quality of life for pediatric brain tumor survivors, please donate to the Raymond A. Wood Foundation, thank you! https://www.rawoodfoundation.org/donate/
Here is a letter to the editor that I wrote to the journal, Obesity. I hope that it will help to educate and influence the attitude of prescribing physicians so that more HO sufferers can get the help they need. Since the publisher (Wiley) has some copyright restrictions on my sharing the final published article with social media and on blogs, I am sharing my pre-published and accepted manuscript; very little has been changed (only minor style edits) from the pre-published manuscript to the finalized version, link to Researchgate full article here: https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Eugenie_Hsu/publication/329187211/inline/jsViewer/5c03ea25a6fdcc1b8d502cd8
Hypothalamic Obesity Treatment Demands Thinking Outside the Box
Editor:
It was no surprise to read about the disappointing treatment outcomes in Rose et al.’s study describing the self-report data from the International Registry of Hypothalamic Obesity Disorders (1). The poor outcomes and the lack of effective treatment options informed by randomized controlled trials (RCTs) (2) make the clinical management of hypothalamic obesity (HO) very challenging indeed. Besides the severe cardiometabolic morbidities associated with HO (3), HO is also greatly responsible for the poor quality of life among its sufferers (4). As a mother to a boy with craniopharyngioma (CP)-HO and hyperphagia, I don’t need to read the medical literature to know about the torment of living with CP-HO.
My post-operative CP son was consumed with hunger and would stop at nothing to find food. His poor satiety was evidenced by his constant complaints of hunger and persistent efforts to steal and stash food. Without effective treatment for his severe hyperphagia and concurrent obesity, we resorted to enforcing lifestyle restrictions common to families with a child with Prader-Willi syndrome (PWS). Five years into intense dietary restrictions, food policing and lockdown, my son remained obese and I knew our restrictive lifestyle was unsustainable. Feeling frantic for a solution, I joined CP and PWS parent support groups and scoured the medical literature. Despite his having panhypopituitarism, I learned that not all of his hormones were being replaced, notably oxytocin. When I read that some of oxytocin’s functions matched my son’s untreated symptoms, I was determined to have him try it.
In 2016, my son began an experimental trial of intranasal oxytocin and ten weeks into the experiment, naltrexone was added.The successful 48-week experiment was published as a case report (5). After more than two years, my son has maintained his positive treatment outcomes: his current BMI is 22.8 and his appetite is normal. We have ceased our former food-restricted lifestyle. He has no adverse effects to oxytocin just as he has no adverse effects to his other replacement hormones.
Despite my son’s successful treatment outcome, our published case report, numerous pre-clinical studies on oxytocin’s effect on energy balance and weight loss (6), promising results from nascent clinical studies (7), the dearth of effective treatment, and the poor quality of life of HO sufferers, HO patients’ requests to their physicians for oxytocin are typically denied. Why? According to these patients’ physicians, oxytocin is “useful for lactation and labor induction only” or that “sufficient research is lacking” to justify a prescription for oxytocin.
A clinical trial testing oxytocin for CP-HO is now underway (NCT02849743). Yet while we impatiently await RCT-endorsed efficacious treatment for this rare condition, patients continue to suffer. As a mother who has seen her son transformed by a more novel approach, I hope that more HO patients are able to access atypical and promising treatments, such as oxytocin. Until HO sufferers can rely upon a gold standard intervention, I assert that successfully treating HO demands thinking outside-the-box with cutting edge approaches; indeed, I am glad that I did.
REFERENCES
1. Rose SR, Horne VE, Bingham N, Jenkins T, Black J, Inge T.Hypothalamic Obesity: 4 Years of the International Registry of Hypothalamic Obesity Disorders. Obesity 2018;0(0). doi:10.1002/oby.22315.
2. Ni W, Shi X. Interventions for the Treatment of Craniopharyngioma-Related Hypothalamic Obesity: A Systematic Review. World Neurosurg. 2018. doi:10.1016/j.wneu.2018.06.121.
3. Wang KW, Chau R, Fleming A, Banfield L, Singh SK, Johnston DL, Zelcer SM, Rassekh SR, Burrow S, Valencia M, de Souza RJ, Thabane L, Samaan MC. The effectiveness of interventions to treat hypothalamic obesity in survivors of childhood brain tumours: a systematic review. Obes. Rev. 2017. doi:10.1111/obr.12534.
4. Mortini P. Craniopharyngiomas: a life-changing tumor. Endocrine 2017. doi:10.1007/s12020-016-1192-2.
5. Hsu EA, Miller JL, Perez FA, Roth CL. Oxytocin and naltrexone successfully treat hypothalamic obesity in a boy post-craniopharyngioma resection. J. Clin. Endocrinol. Metab.2018;103(2). doi:10.1210/jc.2017-02080.
6. Skinner JA, Garg ML, Dayas C V., Fenton S, Burrows TL.Relationship between dietary intake and behaviors with oxytocin: A systematic review of studies in adults. Nutr. Rev. 2018. doi:10.1093/nutrit/nux078.
7. Olszewski PK, Klockars A, Levine AS. Oxytocin and potential benefits for obesity treatment. Curr. Opin. Endocrinol. Diabetes Obes. 2017. doi:10.1097/MED.0000000000000351.
If you want to see the article in its online form, you may click on this link but you will need to be a subscriber to the journal to see the article in its entirety. https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/pdf/10.1002/oby.22371
As I have mentioned before, I do not ask for any compensation or any special thanks for my writing or advocacy. However, if you care to support a wonderful not-for-profit organization that helps improve the quality of life for pediatric brain tumor survivors, please donate to the Raymond A. Wood Foundation, thank you! https://www.rawoodfoundation.org/donate/
Wednesday, November 21, 2018
119) Thanksgiving gratitude... Special shout out to Marci Lerman Serota and Amy Wood!
On this Thanksgiving Eve, I am grateful for the rain...I am grateful for the fresh air that has arrived with the rain...and I am grateful that I have a roof over my head to protect me from the rain. As a resident of the San Francisco Bay Area only 150 miles south of the devastating fire of Paradise, California, I am so glad that the rain has finally come and hope that it helps extinguish the horrific fire that has killed over 80 people, left over 1000 people still missing, and left thousands of people homeless. Whether a tragedy is far away or close to home, these terrible life events put things into perspective and can help us feel even more grateful for what we have.
I would also like to express my gratitude to all of you, whom I consider my fellow health advocates. It was from “cranio mum” Naomi Cook and PWS moms that I learned about oxytocin’s treatment potential for my son’s HO. Thanks to the opportunity to use social media, I have been able to spread the word about the successful experiment and I believe that our continued advocacy will help make it possible to advance scientific research and medical treatment to improve the lives of sufferers with HO.
As a parent to a child with life threatening and chronic health problems, I know that we, parents and caregivers, are on the lookout for how to optimize the health of our loved ones and that we are all advocates, all of the time. There are some extra special parent advocates, however, and I would like to take this opportunity to give a special shout out to two in particular who are very active in the hypothalamic obesity and pediatric brain tumor world:
I've written before about Marci Lerman Serota in my blog post #115. Well, her book has come out and is ready for purchase at www.cranionutrition.com. Marci is a registered dietician nutritionist and a mother to a boy who was diagnosed with craniopharyngioma (same brain tumor as Sasha's) at age 3 and who developed HO in its aftermath. Marci is a fierce parent advocate who has found a way to treat her son's life threatening HO with her savvy nutrition plan. Yay, Marci! Thank you for all that you do for the HO community and for your hard work in writing and publishing your book. I hope that readers can see that there is hope for HO through what you have shared in your website and book.
Amy Wood is the Executive Director of the Raymond A. Wood Foundation, a non-profit organization benefiting survivors of pediatric brain tumors and their families. Amy is the mother of a boy who also had a craniopharyngioma. In the aftermath of the tumor, Amy's son (like Sasha) suffered panhypopituitarism including adipsic diabetes insipidus (anti-diuretic hormone deficiency with absent thirst). Without a working thirst mechanism, Amy's son had difficulty keeping his sodium within normal limits and needed frequent laboratory visits to check his serum sodium levels in order prevent the danger of having unbalanced electrolytes. Although medically necessary, going to the lab multiple times a week is a huge hassle. The i-STAT, a blood analyzer device that can be used at home, is super convenient but is also totally cost prohibitive ($15,000) and not easy to obtain. Well, after Amy (and her husband, Shawn) started the foundation, they have been helping to raise money so that i-STAT devices can be gifted to eligible brain tumor survivors with adipsic DI. What a life-changing gift! Please see the foundation's website to learn more about this amazing organization! https://www.rawoodfoundation.org/
Additionally, Amy has also been the lead parent organizer of the Pituitary Tumor Parent Conference that will take place at the Children's Hospital of Philadelphia (CHOP) on March 16, 2019. We have discussed in our cranio FB community about having a conference and she has worked hard on making this dream come true! Registration and more details will become available on December 1, 2018 so stay tuned! The Raymond A. Wood Foundation will be one of the conference sponsors and will help make the conference very affordable ($20 for adults, free for kids). I applaud you, Amy. Thank you so much for all that you do so that we can all benefit from the education and collaborative sharing that we will look forward to at this inaugural conference.
As you can probably imagine, all of these parent-powered projects take time and effort. Besides the advocacy work, Amy, Marci and I still have to parent our special needs kids, work at our other jobs/responsibilities, etc. Speaking for myself, I do not ask for any financial compensation for my research, advocacy or blog writing and sharing. It is a labor of love and I am motivated by my desire to see others find the relief that we have found. Many of my blog readers have expressed their appreciation to me for the information, research literature, advocacy, etc. on oxytocin and HO and learning that I have helped someone is truly my reward; however, if I could ask for something, it would be this:
On Giving Tuesday (November 27), please donate whatever you can to the Raymond A. Wood Foundation. The foundation is a small one and depends on donations. Amy is an unpaid executive director and her hard work benefits all of us who have a child who suffers from the effects of a brain tumor. If you feel that you have benefited from what you've learned in this blog or that you may benefit from the information that will be shared at the CHOP conference (psst... Marci will be a featured speaker), or if you just want to do something nice for me, please show your gratitude through a donation. I know there are many great organizations with donation-worthy causes, but I ask that you please consider giving to the Wood Foundation. I will post a link to my blog on Giving Tuesday via Facebook so that you may donate. Thank you kindly!
May we all feel gratitude for our blessings! To my American readers, Happy Thanksgiving!
I would also like to express my gratitude to all of you, whom I consider my fellow health advocates. It was from “cranio mum” Naomi Cook and PWS moms that I learned about oxytocin’s treatment potential for my son’s HO. Thanks to the opportunity to use social media, I have been able to spread the word about the successful experiment and I believe that our continued advocacy will help make it possible to advance scientific research and medical treatment to improve the lives of sufferers with HO.
As a parent to a child with life threatening and chronic health problems, I know that we, parents and caregivers, are on the lookout for how to optimize the health of our loved ones and that we are all advocates, all of the time. There are some extra special parent advocates, however, and I would like to take this opportunity to give a special shout out to two in particular who are very active in the hypothalamic obesity and pediatric brain tumor world:
I've written before about Marci Lerman Serota in my blog post #115. Well, her book has come out and is ready for purchase at www.cranionutrition.com. Marci is a registered dietician nutritionist and a mother to a boy who was diagnosed with craniopharyngioma (same brain tumor as Sasha's) at age 3 and who developed HO in its aftermath. Marci is a fierce parent advocate who has found a way to treat her son's life threatening HO with her savvy nutrition plan. Yay, Marci! Thank you for all that you do for the HO community and for your hard work in writing and publishing your book. I hope that readers can see that there is hope for HO through what you have shared in your website and book.
Amy Wood is the Executive Director of the Raymond A. Wood Foundation, a non-profit organization benefiting survivors of pediatric brain tumors and their families. Amy is the mother of a boy who also had a craniopharyngioma. In the aftermath of the tumor, Amy's son (like Sasha) suffered panhypopituitarism including adipsic diabetes insipidus (anti-diuretic hormone deficiency with absent thirst). Without a working thirst mechanism, Amy's son had difficulty keeping his sodium within normal limits and needed frequent laboratory visits to check his serum sodium levels in order prevent the danger of having unbalanced electrolytes. Although medically necessary, going to the lab multiple times a week is a huge hassle. The i-STAT, a blood analyzer device that can be used at home, is super convenient but is also totally cost prohibitive ($15,000) and not easy to obtain. Well, after Amy (and her husband, Shawn) started the foundation, they have been helping to raise money so that i-STAT devices can be gifted to eligible brain tumor survivors with adipsic DI. What a life-changing gift! Please see the foundation's website to learn more about this amazing organization! https://www.rawoodfoundation.org/
Additionally, Amy has also been the lead parent organizer of the Pituitary Tumor Parent Conference that will take place at the Children's Hospital of Philadelphia (CHOP) on March 16, 2019. We have discussed in our cranio FB community about having a conference and she has worked hard on making this dream come true! Registration and more details will become available on December 1, 2018 so stay tuned! The Raymond A. Wood Foundation will be one of the conference sponsors and will help make the conference very affordable ($20 for adults, free for kids). I applaud you, Amy. Thank you so much for all that you do so that we can all benefit from the education and collaborative sharing that we will look forward to at this inaugural conference.
As you can probably imagine, all of these parent-powered projects take time and effort. Besides the advocacy work, Amy, Marci and I still have to parent our special needs kids, work at our other jobs/responsibilities, etc. Speaking for myself, I do not ask for any financial compensation for my research, advocacy or blog writing and sharing. It is a labor of love and I am motivated by my desire to see others find the relief that we have found. Many of my blog readers have expressed their appreciation to me for the information, research literature, advocacy, etc. on oxytocin and HO and learning that I have helped someone is truly my reward; however, if I could ask for something, it would be this:
On Giving Tuesday (November 27), please donate whatever you can to the Raymond A. Wood Foundation. The foundation is a small one and depends on donations. Amy is an unpaid executive director and her hard work benefits all of us who have a child who suffers from the effects of a brain tumor. If you feel that you have benefited from what you've learned in this blog or that you may benefit from the information that will be shared at the CHOP conference (psst... Marci will be a featured speaker), or if you just want to do something nice for me, please show your gratitude through a donation. I know there are many great organizations with donation-worthy causes, but I ask that you please consider giving to the Wood Foundation. I will post a link to my blog on Giving Tuesday via Facebook so that you may donate. Thank you kindly!
May we all feel gratitude for our blessings! To my American readers, Happy Thanksgiving!
Sunday, November 11, 2018
118) Providers willing to prescribe oxytocin: name, speciality, location
I have written a Letter to the Editor to (the journal) Obesity and it was accepted for publication (link): https://www.researchgate.net/publication/329187211_Hypothalamic_Obesity_Treatment_Demands_Thinking_Outside_the_Box. I wrote about the need to "think outside-the-box" when it comes to treating hypothalamic obesity. I am hopeful that it will change the minds of some providers to become more willing to prescribe an off-label intervention like oxytocin to their HO patients. Please keep in mind that oxytocin for HO is considered "experimental" because dosing trials have not been done yet and it does not have FDA approval. One could say that the providers who prescribe oxytocin for HO are practicing "out-of-the-box."
Since I have started this blog and published our case report, I have been learning of a few more providers who are willing to prescribe. It is still very much a tiny minority of endocrinologists who appear to be willing to use oxytocin in this off-label manner, but it is a start! Like my updated list of research papers in post #8, I will update this list as I learn about more prescribing providers.
If you know a physician who is willing to prescribe oxytocin, please share her/his name, speciality, whether s/he treats children or adults, and location and I will add them to this list. Please note that I am not including them on this list as an endorsement; I am merely sharing them as providers who have been willing to prescribe oxytocin to their patients. Additionally, it goes without saying (but I will say it anyway as a caveat) that physicians will use their own clinical discretion on a case-by-case basis as to how they decide to treat their patients and just because they are listed here as providers who have prescribed oxytocin to a patient, does not mean that they will necessarily prescribe it to other patients.
Here's what I have so far:
USA
1. Dr. Theodore Friedman; adult endocrinology, Los Angeles, CA
2. Dr. Lewis Blevins; adult endocrinology, San Francisco, CA
3. Dr. Kurt Midyett; pedi and adult endocrinology, Overland, KS
4. Dr. Emily Gutierrez; pedi and adult functional and integrative medicine, Austin TX
5. Dr. Scott Moreland; pedi and adult psychiatry, Sugarland, TX
6. Dr. Justin Saya, Defy Medical Group Practice; adult endocrinology, Tampa, FL
7. Dr. Jennifer Miller; pedi endocrinology, Gainesville, FL
8. Dr. Nelly Mauras; pedi endocrinology, Jacksonville, FL
9. Dr. Brian Childers; pedi general practice, Douglas, GA
10. Dr. Timothy Petersen; adult endocrinology, Virginia Beach, VA
11. Dr. Rebecca Ryder; adult gynecology, Chesapeake, VA
12. Dr. Jose Alvarado; pedi general practice, Salisbury, MD
13. Dr. Andrew Scrogin; adult endocrinology, Auburn Hills, MI
14. Dr. Jennifer Abuzzahab, pedi endocrinology, St. Paul, MN
15. Dr. Tayma Shayna, pedi and adult primary care, Sugarland, TX
16. Dr. Charles Upchurch, adult endocrinology, Charlotte, NC
17. Dr. Christian Roth, pedi endocrinology, Seattle, WA
18. Dr. Kathryn Weaver, adolescents and adults, endocrinology, Seattle, WA
19. Dr Bethany Peterson, adult gynecology, Katy, TX
Australia
1. Dr. John Hart; adult functional and integrative medicine, Sydney, NSW
2. Dr. Rory Clifton-Bligh; adult endocrinology, Sydney, NSW
3. Dr. David Torpy; adult endocrinology, Adelaide, SA
4. Dr. Andrew Oliver; adult general practice, Lake Cathie, NSW
5. Dr Nick Davies; adult general practice, Gorokan, NSW
Canada
1. Dr. Jill Hamilton, pedi endocrinology, Toronto, ON
2. Dr. Alexander Chesover, pedi endocrinology, Toronto, ON
3. Dr. Munish Khosla; adult endocrinology, Calgary, AB
New Zealand
1. Dr. Helen Smith; pedi and adult holistic practice, Auckland
Since I have started this blog and published our case report, I have been learning of a few more providers who are willing to prescribe. It is still very much a tiny minority of endocrinologists who appear to be willing to use oxytocin in this off-label manner, but it is a start! Like my updated list of research papers in post #8, I will update this list as I learn about more prescribing providers.
If you know a physician who is willing to prescribe oxytocin, please share her/his name, speciality, whether s/he treats children or adults, and location and I will add them to this list. Please note that I am not including them on this list as an endorsement; I am merely sharing them as providers who have been willing to prescribe oxytocin to their patients. Additionally, it goes without saying (but I will say it anyway as a caveat) that physicians will use their own clinical discretion on a case-by-case basis as to how they decide to treat their patients and just because they are listed here as providers who have prescribed oxytocin to a patient, does not mean that they will necessarily prescribe it to other patients.
Here's what I have so far:
USA
1. Dr. Theodore Friedman; adult endocrinology, Los Angeles, CA
2. Dr. Lewis Blevins; adult endocrinology, San Francisco, CA
3. Dr. Kurt Midyett; pedi and adult endocrinology, Overland, KS
4. Dr. Emily Gutierrez; pedi and adult functional and integrative medicine, Austin TX
5. Dr. Scott Moreland; pedi and adult psychiatry, Sugarland, TX
6. Dr. Justin Saya, Defy Medical Group Practice; adult endocrinology, Tampa, FL
7. Dr. Jennifer Miller; pedi endocrinology, Gainesville, FL
8. Dr. Nelly Mauras; pedi endocrinology, Jacksonville, FL
9. Dr. Brian Childers; pedi general practice, Douglas, GA
10. Dr. Timothy Petersen; adult endocrinology, Virginia Beach, VA
11. Dr. Rebecca Ryder; adult gynecology, Chesapeake, VA
12. Dr. Jose Alvarado; pedi general practice, Salisbury, MD
13. Dr. Andrew Scrogin; adult endocrinology, Auburn Hills, MI
14. Dr. Jennifer Abuzzahab, pedi endocrinology, St. Paul, MN
15. Dr. Tayma Shayna, pedi and adult primary care, Sugarland, TX
16. Dr. Charles Upchurch, adult endocrinology, Charlotte, NC
17. Dr. Christian Roth, pedi endocrinology, Seattle, WA
18. Dr. Kathryn Weaver, adolescents and adults, endocrinology, Seattle, WA
19. Dr Bethany Peterson, adult gynecology, Katy, TX
Australia
1. Dr. John Hart; adult functional and integrative medicine, Sydney, NSW
2. Dr. Rory Clifton-Bligh; adult endocrinology, Sydney, NSW
3. Dr. David Torpy; adult endocrinology, Adelaide, SA
4. Dr. Andrew Oliver; adult general practice, Lake Cathie, NSW
5. Dr Nick Davies; adult general practice, Gorokan, NSW
Canada
1. Dr. Jill Hamilton, pedi endocrinology, Toronto, ON
2. Dr. Alexander Chesover, pedi endocrinology, Toronto, ON
3. Dr. Munish Khosla; adult endocrinology, Calgary, AB
New Zealand
1. Dr. Helen Smith; pedi and adult holistic practice, Auckland
Wednesday, October 24, 2018
117) Progress continues with Sasha and the case report
It's now been over two years since Sasha has been on oxytocin (+ naltrexone) and he is continuing to do well. His former lower carb eating plan has become increasingly lax... it seems that having a slice of toast with his eggs in the morning or rice at a Chinese restaurant or a pizza dinner has not made any impact on his weight. Relaxing the carb restrictions has made for a more mellow lifestyle in our family.
The most impressive improvements of late in Sasha have been around his ability to manage his weight even with his own spending money. Before oxytocin (and for the first 18 months into the experiment), we never dared let him have any spending money for fear he would spend it all on junk food and gain excess weight on it. At the end of his freshman academic year (May-June, 2018), he was given the privilege to carry money to school to spend it how he pleased. We knew that he was going to have to learn how to handle money and all the sugary temptations out in the world so we decided it was important for him to learn about it sooner than later. Well, as we predicted, he took full advantage of this new privilege and bought cookies at school, perhaps even every day. Not surprisingly, he gained weight from all the cookies he was eating. He liked the cookies, but not the weight gain. During the summer being away from the cookies at school helped him level out his weight and he even lost a few kilos on our active summer trip to Europe in late June/early July and throughout the summer.
Sasha started his sophomore year in September and so far, he has been able to exercise better control and discipline around his cookie buying habit. Somehow he has made decisions to refrain from the cookie buying and when I asked him how or why he doesn't buy cookies, he says, "because I don't want to gain the extra weight." Sasha is now 184 cm (6'0.5") tall and 77.3 kg (170 pounds) heavy and his BMI is 22.8. After losing the extra cookie weight in the summer, he has kept his weight in this range since August. I know that he is (aren't we all?) always at risk of succumbing to the seduction of cookies so it will be something that I hope he can manage with moderation. So far, he seems to be doing a great job and I am impressed.
I am also pleased to report that so far, our JCEM case report has been cited five times in other peer reviewed journals: https://scholar.google.com/scholar?um=1&ie=UTF-8&lr&cites=3043971027459005670. The review articles all point to the lack of effective treatment for HO and I am now trying to get a Letter to the Editor published in one of these journals to address this problem. Although I have already been turned down by Endocrine Reviews (they have a policy of only publishing Letters to the Editor that point out major errors in previously published materials), the kind and supportive note from the Editor-in-Chief has left me feeling encouraged about continuing to try with other journals. It is my intention to piggyback on our report and to share that my son has continued to reap the benefits of oxytocin and naltrexone to enjoy a normal relationship with food and a normal weight. I hope to convey my belief that the dearth of effective treatment options and the poor quality of life of HO sufferers begs for an open-minded approach to treating this challenging condition and that I hope more endocrinologists become willing to try more cutting edge approaches (such as oxytocin) with their HO patients.
The most impressive improvements of late in Sasha have been around his ability to manage his weight even with his own spending money. Before oxytocin (and for the first 18 months into the experiment), we never dared let him have any spending money for fear he would spend it all on junk food and gain excess weight on it. At the end of his freshman academic year (May-June, 2018), he was given the privilege to carry money to school to spend it how he pleased. We knew that he was going to have to learn how to handle money and all the sugary temptations out in the world so we decided it was important for him to learn about it sooner than later. Well, as we predicted, he took full advantage of this new privilege and bought cookies at school, perhaps even every day. Not surprisingly, he gained weight from all the cookies he was eating. He liked the cookies, but not the weight gain. During the summer being away from the cookies at school helped him level out his weight and he even lost a few kilos on our active summer trip to Europe in late June/early July and throughout the summer.
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| Photo of Sasha taken yesterday: Age 15: 6 feet, 1/2 inch tall, 170 pounds |
Sasha started his sophomore year in September and so far, he has been able to exercise better control and discipline around his cookie buying habit. Somehow he has made decisions to refrain from the cookie buying and when I asked him how or why he doesn't buy cookies, he says, "because I don't want to gain the extra weight." Sasha is now 184 cm (6'0.5") tall and 77.3 kg (170 pounds) heavy and his BMI is 22.8. After losing the extra cookie weight in the summer, he has kept his weight in this range since August. I know that he is (aren't we all?) always at risk of succumbing to the seduction of cookies so it will be something that I hope he can manage with moderation. So far, he seems to be doing a great job and I am impressed.
I am also pleased to report that so far, our JCEM case report has been cited five times in other peer reviewed journals: https://scholar.google.com/scholar?um=1&ie=UTF-8&lr&cites=3043971027459005670. The review articles all point to the lack of effective treatment for HO and I am now trying to get a Letter to the Editor published in one of these journals to address this problem. Although I have already been turned down by Endocrine Reviews (they have a policy of only publishing Letters to the Editor that point out major errors in previously published materials), the kind and supportive note from the Editor-in-Chief has left me feeling encouraged about continuing to try with other journals. It is my intention to piggyback on our report and to share that my son has continued to reap the benefits of oxytocin and naltrexone to enjoy a normal relationship with food and a normal weight. I hope to convey my belief that the dearth of effective treatment options and the poor quality of life of HO sufferers begs for an open-minded approach to treating this challenging condition and that I hope more endocrinologists become willing to try more cutting edge approaches (such as oxytocin) with their HO patients.
Wednesday, September 5, 2018
116) ACT for anxiety- tips for managing worry
It's funny...I have been writing in this blog for over two years on HO, oxytocin, and sometimes on my role as a special needs parent but I have not written much at all about mental health care despite my professional role as a clinical psychologist. I guess it didn't occur to me because mental health treatment was always thought to be my career job while Hope for HO was thought of as a forum for my role as a parent. For some reason, I recently saw a Facebook post from a very worried individual that reminded me that I might have some helpful info to share with those who are struggling with anxiety and stress.
I specialize in treating people with anxiety disorders and I have always enjoyed working with those who are anxious because I conceptualize anxiety as an "excess of caring"- therefore, anxious people are often the most earnest and caring people in the world. Think about it: if you didn't care about something or someone, you wouldn't feel anxious, right? We worry about the welfare of our loved ones because we care about them. We make our way quickly across the street when we see a car coming because we care about and prefer to avoid getting squished by an oncoming car. In other words, anxiety is a very normal and healthy response that signifies that we care about something.
So why does it feel so bad to be anxious if it's normal and signifies caring? I think the problem with anxiety arises when the worry or anxiety is not channeled to a constructive end because (1) you are worrying and struggling about something that is not within your control and/or (2) you are avoiding taking constructive steps to do something that is within your control and/or (3) you are taking steps to do something that is within your control but it doesn't agree with your set of values or is not effective.
According to the Serenity Prayer (a mantra used in 12-Step meetings):
"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things that I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
It's definitely the "wisdom to know the difference" that is the tricky part! So much time and energy is wasted trying to control what we can't control and so much agency is lost when we do not act on what is within our control. On the list of common things we try to control and wish we could control but can't: other people's behaviors, thoughts and feelings; the past; the future. Sometimes we are not even in control of our OWN behaviors (e,g.:accidents) or our OWN thoughts and feelings (e.g.:worries, other unhelpful thoughts).
Worrying about and trying to control things we can't control will only cause us to feel impotent and more anxious. In addition, anxious people struggle to have certainty in an uncertain world and this is also very distressing; in fact, the very act of insisting on having certainty (in an uncertain, inconsistent and imperfect world) is also another recipe for more anxiety and stress. What's really ironic to me is that many anxious people tend to have such a high intolerance of uncertainty that they end up making up the "end of the story" just to have a conclusion even if the conclusion is a terrible one! We've probably all done this and later realized that the apprehension and prediction we had about something in the unknown future ended up being so much worse that the actual outcome. In this situation, we used our energy to conjure up a terrible end of the story when we could have used that same energy on something else and perhaps saved ourselves a lot of mental anguish.
On the flip side, if our problems have concrete steps that can be taken but we do not take the steps to do something to address the problem, our problems will only be prolonged and exacerbated through this denial/avoidance.
What to do? There are several helpful psychotherapeutic approaches for handling distressing emotions such as anxiety including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). My personal favorite is Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). ACT is a therapy approach that combines the serenity of mindful acceptance with the practicality of behavioral activation and the wisdom of acting/living in accordance to one's values. Sometimes we are fortunate to have worrisome problems that are within our control to address. To address the problems within our control, we apply our available resources and follow through with an action plan. The problems not within our control are much harder to handle; in these cases, it is best to radically accept this fact and refocus our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors on something else that is within our control (valued commitments). Simply put, ACT can be broken down into this acronym: A= Accept (reality for what it is), C= Choose (to focus and live in accordance to one's values), T= Take action (on those valued commitments to live a meaningful life).
As mentioned above, even our own thoughts and feelings cannot always be controlled. In our frustration of not having control over our own thoughts and feelings (worrisome thoughts are good examples here), we end up judging ourselves, telling ourselves,"why can't I stop feeling and thinking this way", "snap out of it!" etc. Instead of struggling with our undesirable thoughts and feelings, we can accept that they are there and make space for them. It is important to note that acceptance DOES NOT mean approval. Acceptance means simply that you recognize reality for what it is, period. I accept that my son has very serious chronic medical conditions that may require our lifelong management. I don't like or approve of this fact... but I fully accept it.
ACT is often described with metaphors: if you are swimming in a lake with a bunch of beach balls and the beach balls are symbols of your undesirable thoughts, you can choose to use your energy to banish the balls from your view by trying to hold them down underwater (which requires a lot of effort) OR you can just leave them alone and let the balls float around you. Instead of focusing on the balls, you can choose to focus on other aspects of your lake experience (the sunshine, the temperature of the water, the company of friends, etc.). We may not be able to control the uncontrollable, but we CAN learn to have a more accepting attitude towards what is not within our control. This letting go is liberating because it frees us from the struggle to change the unchangeable and allows us to refocus our energies on our valued commitments. Refocusing on our values helps us live a life by design and not by default or at the whim of our passing emotions.
Ok, now that I've explained the theory, how would the ACT approach work when applied to a challenging situation common to a brain tumor survivor, for example? Let's take the example of a parent who worries (for good reason) about the health and welfare of her child who suffers from chronic medical conditions, including adrenal insufficiency. Adrenal insufficiency (AI) is a medical condition that requires a good degree of vigilance to manage since stress or illness can cause a life threatening situation (adrenal crisis) and lead to death if not handled with prompt and proper treatment. My son has AI so I understand the gravity of this disorder and I recognize that it is easy to worry about a person with AI...
What if he gets sick, has an adrenal crisis and dies?
What if he gets into a car accident and has an adrenal crisis?
What if he is without his Solu Cortef injection when he needs it?
What if he's alone and loses consciousness and can't call for help?
These kinds of worries probably cross the minds of the caregivers and of those who suffer from this condition. If we use the ACT approach, we would first accept what we cannot control: the fact that the person has AI, when an illness/stressful situation may strike, whether or not the ill person/others will be able to respond in a timely way to their illness, etc. We can then choose how we want to handle these facts based on our values: if we value having a certain active lifestyle with many activities, we can make choices to provide a life that supports these activities, even with the condition of AI. We would need to take action by ensuring that the needed medicines are available, key people are trained to deliver the medicine in case of an adrenal crisis, the person with AI has a medical alert tag worn at all times, the person with AI and others get trained in knowing the circumstances that would require stress dosing, etc. Even if all the boxes are checked and everything that is controllable is done, anxiety may still persist because life is full of uncertainties!
Different people with AI may choose to live differently with their condition, depending on their values. Person A who values safety/caution as #1 may choose to live a much more conservative life and perhaps choose to avoid activities that he considers too high risk for himself; person B with AI values adventurousness and may make very different choices. Person B may choose to take those risks because adventure, for her, contributes greatly to living a meaningful life. Person B knows the risks and feels the anxiety associated with these risks but still chooses to go on the adventure; in fact, person B may need to take her anxiety along on her adventure! There is no right or wrong lifestyle with AI, per se (provided that the AI person knows how to manage it and to stay alive). According to ACT, life is optimally lived when it is guided by one's values and not by one's default emotional reaction (often anxiety). The only exception to this rule of thumb is if safety happens to be one of the values that is held in high esteem. In this case, the person (like person A) who values safety is also living by his values by design.
When you are feeling anxious... breathe...ask yourself what is within your control and do something about those items and then remind yourself that you've done what you can that is within your control, let go of what is not within your control and focus on something else that can give you meaning in the moment. Here is a handout of the Worry Decision Tree that can help guide you to be more constructive with your worrying: https://www.getselfhelp.co.uk/docs/worrytree.pdf
If you are intrigued by the ACT approach and want to learn more about it, here is the website: https://contextualscience.org/act. Under the left side menu of ACT for the Public, you can find self- help resources, free audio exercises and free videos.
I specialize in treating people with anxiety disorders and I have always enjoyed working with those who are anxious because I conceptualize anxiety as an "excess of caring"- therefore, anxious people are often the most earnest and caring people in the world. Think about it: if you didn't care about something or someone, you wouldn't feel anxious, right? We worry about the welfare of our loved ones because we care about them. We make our way quickly across the street when we see a car coming because we care about and prefer to avoid getting squished by an oncoming car. In other words, anxiety is a very normal and healthy response that signifies that we care about something.
So why does it feel so bad to be anxious if it's normal and signifies caring? I think the problem with anxiety arises when the worry or anxiety is not channeled to a constructive end because (1) you are worrying and struggling about something that is not within your control and/or (2) you are avoiding taking constructive steps to do something that is within your control and/or (3) you are taking steps to do something that is within your control but it doesn't agree with your set of values or is not effective.
According to the Serenity Prayer (a mantra used in 12-Step meetings):
"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things that I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
It's definitely the "wisdom to know the difference" that is the tricky part! So much time and energy is wasted trying to control what we can't control and so much agency is lost when we do not act on what is within our control. On the list of common things we try to control and wish we could control but can't: other people's behaviors, thoughts and feelings; the past; the future. Sometimes we are not even in control of our OWN behaviors (e,g.:accidents) or our OWN thoughts and feelings (e.g.:worries, other unhelpful thoughts).
Worrying about and trying to control things we can't control will only cause us to feel impotent and more anxious. In addition, anxious people struggle to have certainty in an uncertain world and this is also very distressing; in fact, the very act of insisting on having certainty (in an uncertain, inconsistent and imperfect world) is also another recipe for more anxiety and stress. What's really ironic to me is that many anxious people tend to have such a high intolerance of uncertainty that they end up making up the "end of the story" just to have a conclusion even if the conclusion is a terrible one! We've probably all done this and later realized that the apprehension and prediction we had about something in the unknown future ended up being so much worse that the actual outcome. In this situation, we used our energy to conjure up a terrible end of the story when we could have used that same energy on something else and perhaps saved ourselves a lot of mental anguish.
On the flip side, if our problems have concrete steps that can be taken but we do not take the steps to do something to address the problem, our problems will only be prolonged and exacerbated through this denial/avoidance.
What to do? There are several helpful psychotherapeutic approaches for handling distressing emotions such as anxiety including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). My personal favorite is Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). ACT is a therapy approach that combines the serenity of mindful acceptance with the practicality of behavioral activation and the wisdom of acting/living in accordance to one's values. Sometimes we are fortunate to have worrisome problems that are within our control to address. To address the problems within our control, we apply our available resources and follow through with an action plan. The problems not within our control are much harder to handle; in these cases, it is best to radically accept this fact and refocus our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors on something else that is within our control (valued commitments). Simply put, ACT can be broken down into this acronym: A= Accept (reality for what it is), C= Choose (to focus and live in accordance to one's values), T= Take action (on those valued commitments to live a meaningful life).
As mentioned above, even our own thoughts and feelings cannot always be controlled. In our frustration of not having control over our own thoughts and feelings (worrisome thoughts are good examples here), we end up judging ourselves, telling ourselves,"why can't I stop feeling and thinking this way", "snap out of it!" etc. Instead of struggling with our undesirable thoughts and feelings, we can accept that they are there and make space for them. It is important to note that acceptance DOES NOT mean approval. Acceptance means simply that you recognize reality for what it is, period. I accept that my son has very serious chronic medical conditions that may require our lifelong management. I don't like or approve of this fact... but I fully accept it.
ACT is often described with metaphors: if you are swimming in a lake with a bunch of beach balls and the beach balls are symbols of your undesirable thoughts, you can choose to use your energy to banish the balls from your view by trying to hold them down underwater (which requires a lot of effort) OR you can just leave them alone and let the balls float around you. Instead of focusing on the balls, you can choose to focus on other aspects of your lake experience (the sunshine, the temperature of the water, the company of friends, etc.). We may not be able to control the uncontrollable, but we CAN learn to have a more accepting attitude towards what is not within our control. This letting go is liberating because it frees us from the struggle to change the unchangeable and allows us to refocus our energies on our valued commitments. Refocusing on our values helps us live a life by design and not by default or at the whim of our passing emotions.
Ok, now that I've explained the theory, how would the ACT approach work when applied to a challenging situation common to a brain tumor survivor, for example? Let's take the example of a parent who worries (for good reason) about the health and welfare of her child who suffers from chronic medical conditions, including adrenal insufficiency. Adrenal insufficiency (AI) is a medical condition that requires a good degree of vigilance to manage since stress or illness can cause a life threatening situation (adrenal crisis) and lead to death if not handled with prompt and proper treatment. My son has AI so I understand the gravity of this disorder and I recognize that it is easy to worry about a person with AI...
What if he gets sick, has an adrenal crisis and dies?
What if he gets into a car accident and has an adrenal crisis?
What if he is without his Solu Cortef injection when he needs it?
What if he's alone and loses consciousness and can't call for help?
These kinds of worries probably cross the minds of the caregivers and of those who suffer from this condition. If we use the ACT approach, we would first accept what we cannot control: the fact that the person has AI, when an illness/stressful situation may strike, whether or not the ill person/others will be able to respond in a timely way to their illness, etc. We can then choose how we want to handle these facts based on our values: if we value having a certain active lifestyle with many activities, we can make choices to provide a life that supports these activities, even with the condition of AI. We would need to take action by ensuring that the needed medicines are available, key people are trained to deliver the medicine in case of an adrenal crisis, the person with AI has a medical alert tag worn at all times, the person with AI and others get trained in knowing the circumstances that would require stress dosing, etc. Even if all the boxes are checked and everything that is controllable is done, anxiety may still persist because life is full of uncertainties!
Different people with AI may choose to live differently with their condition, depending on their values. Person A who values safety/caution as #1 may choose to live a much more conservative life and perhaps choose to avoid activities that he considers too high risk for himself; person B with AI values adventurousness and may make very different choices. Person B may choose to take those risks because adventure, for her, contributes greatly to living a meaningful life. Person B knows the risks and feels the anxiety associated with these risks but still chooses to go on the adventure; in fact, person B may need to take her anxiety along on her adventure! There is no right or wrong lifestyle with AI, per se (provided that the AI person knows how to manage it and to stay alive). According to ACT, life is optimally lived when it is guided by one's values and not by one's default emotional reaction (often anxiety). The only exception to this rule of thumb is if safety happens to be one of the values that is held in high esteem. In this case, the person (like person A) who values safety is also living by his values by design.
When you are feeling anxious... breathe...ask yourself what is within your control and do something about those items and then remind yourself that you've done what you can that is within your control, let go of what is not within your control and focus on something else that can give you meaning in the moment. Here is a handout of the Worry Decision Tree that can help guide you to be more constructive with your worrying: https://www.getselfhelp.co.uk/docs/worrytree.pdf
If you are intrigued by the ACT approach and want to learn more about it, here is the website: https://contextualscience.org/act. Under the left side menu of ACT for the Public, you can find self- help resources, free audio exercises and free videos.
Saturday, August 25, 2018
115) Good nutrition and a healthy lifestyle: a must for living with HO
Since the publication of our JCEM case report a few months ago, a handful of HO patients have been able to convince their physicians to try them on it and I've heard some happy stories of good outcomes. However, it's become apparent to me that for most sufferers of HO, getting a prescription for oxytocin is not possible now, or at least not easy. Medical research moves at its cumbersome pace, alas, and it feels impossibly slow for those who are suffering from syndromes lacking treatment. I am still hopeful that oxytocin will become more readily available once larger studies can demonstrate its effectiveness.
Although oxytocin (plus naltrexone) were the agents of change for my son by reducing and normalizing his appetite, increasing his metabolism, and reducing his weight, I also know that his health has been substantially helped by our food plan, a lower carbohydrate lifestyle.
Some history: after Sasha's craniotomy surgery to resect his large craniopharyngioma in 2011, he had alarmingly high lipids including triglycerides (TGs) which were 7,300. After fasting for a couple of days, the TGs dropped to 1,400. He was gaining weight quickly and he had an obvious intense and constant appetite. Unfortunately (unbeknownst to us at the time), we were given (bad) nutritional advice by a team of nutritionists and physicians. They advised that Sasha should eat a low calorie, low fat, low sugar diet. For the fat restriction, they wanted him to eat LESS THAN 20 GRAMS of fat a day. They warned us that his lipid profile and obesity put him at risk for pancreatitis, fatty liver, etc. Well, for over three years, we kept his fats under 20 grams a day and it was awful. We called his diet the "low fun" diet. If you can't eat fat or sugar, what's left? Well, he was allowed to eat low fat proteins so he ate egg whites and a lot of turkey breast (so much so, he prefers to avoid turkey now, lol). Strangely, we weren't told he couldn't have other carbohydrates so we ended up giving him vegetables, of course, but we also fed him crackers, pretzels, pasta, rice, etc. Well, after eating in this manner, wouldn't you know it- we continued to struggle to keep his TGs under 500 even though he was eating almost no fat. He was still obese and he tended to fall asleep frequently during the day. Although we locked up the kitchen and did our best to supervise him closely at home and at school, he continued to steal food whenever he had the chance.
In 2015, I pushed our health plan to refer us to one the world's experts in hypothalamic obesity, Dr. Robert Lustig. Dr. Lustig was working at University of California in San Francisco (UCSF) hospital as a pediatric endocrinologist and had written extensively on HO. It was from Dr. Lustig that I learned about the term "hyperinsulin secreter" and was advised that Sasha radically change his diet to a low carbohydrate plan and that we could introduce fats back into his diet. I did as instructed and noticed improvements in Sasha- his lipid panel improved and he lost some weight for the first time. He continued to attempt to steal and stash food, however, and this prompted us to try oxytocin (and the rest is history, they say!)
Thanks to our lower carb lifestyle and after adding oxytocin, Sasha is at a healthy normal weight, his metabolic health is good (including his lipid panel), he no longer hypersecretes insulin (as evidenced by his last glucose tolerance -with insulin- test and his lack of sleepiness after eating), and we no longer live with a locked kitchen. Since returning from a holiday in Europe after we saw that he could tolerate more carbs and still lose weight, we are more liberal with him these days and allow some higher carb foods (e.g.: pasta) on occasion; however, we still stick to eating whole foods and eat as little processed foods as possible. We also still strive for healthy fats and high fiber in our foods and continue to be mindful of carbs. The entire family eats in this fashion so Sasha feels supported and so that there is uniformity in our family's lifestyle...unless you count the times I "cheat" when I go out to lunch with my friends : )
All of this is to say that I am excited to share some news about an upcoming book, Hungry for Solutions, by Marci Serota, Registered Dietician Nutritionist. In her book, Marci shares her story about her own son (also a craniopharyngioma survivor with HO) and how he successfully battled HO and hyperphagia with her nutritional and lifestyle plan. Although I learned about the lower carb lifestyle from Dr. Lustig, I have had the privilege to preview Marci's book and agree wholeheartedly with her nutritional guidance and the hopeful message it sends: even one of the most pernicious forms of childhood obesity can be tamed with healthy eating. Marci's book is coming out in November, 2018 and if you are interested, you may order it in advance and at a discount through her website: https://cranionutrition.com/. Check it out also for recipe ideas, foods to avoid, how to read a nutritional label, and other helpful topics!
Although oxytocin (plus naltrexone) were the agents of change for my son by reducing and normalizing his appetite, increasing his metabolism, and reducing his weight, I also know that his health has been substantially helped by our food plan, a lower carbohydrate lifestyle.
Some history: after Sasha's craniotomy surgery to resect his large craniopharyngioma in 2011, he had alarmingly high lipids including triglycerides (TGs) which were 7,300. After fasting for a couple of days, the TGs dropped to 1,400. He was gaining weight quickly and he had an obvious intense and constant appetite. Unfortunately (unbeknownst to us at the time), we were given (bad) nutritional advice by a team of nutritionists and physicians. They advised that Sasha should eat a low calorie, low fat, low sugar diet. For the fat restriction, they wanted him to eat LESS THAN 20 GRAMS of fat a day. They warned us that his lipid profile and obesity put him at risk for pancreatitis, fatty liver, etc. Well, for over three years, we kept his fats under 20 grams a day and it was awful. We called his diet the "low fun" diet. If you can't eat fat or sugar, what's left? Well, he was allowed to eat low fat proteins so he ate egg whites and a lot of turkey breast (so much so, he prefers to avoid turkey now, lol). Strangely, we weren't told he couldn't have other carbohydrates so we ended up giving him vegetables, of course, but we also fed him crackers, pretzels, pasta, rice, etc. Well, after eating in this manner, wouldn't you know it- we continued to struggle to keep his TGs under 500 even though he was eating almost no fat. He was still obese and he tended to fall asleep frequently during the day. Although we locked up the kitchen and did our best to supervise him closely at home and at school, he continued to steal food whenever he had the chance.
In 2015, I pushed our health plan to refer us to one the world's experts in hypothalamic obesity, Dr. Robert Lustig. Dr. Lustig was working at University of California in San Francisco (UCSF) hospital as a pediatric endocrinologist and had written extensively on HO. It was from Dr. Lustig that I learned about the term "hyperinsulin secreter" and was advised that Sasha radically change his diet to a low carbohydrate plan and that we could introduce fats back into his diet. I did as instructed and noticed improvements in Sasha- his lipid panel improved and he lost some weight for the first time. He continued to attempt to steal and stash food, however, and this prompted us to try oxytocin (and the rest is history, they say!)
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| Sasha is a fan of kale and isn't afraid to advertise it! |
Thanks to our lower carb lifestyle and after adding oxytocin, Sasha is at a healthy normal weight, his metabolic health is good (including his lipid panel), he no longer hypersecretes insulin (as evidenced by his last glucose tolerance -with insulin- test and his lack of sleepiness after eating), and we no longer live with a locked kitchen. Since returning from a holiday in Europe after we saw that he could tolerate more carbs and still lose weight, we are more liberal with him these days and allow some higher carb foods (e.g.: pasta) on occasion; however, we still stick to eating whole foods and eat as little processed foods as possible. We also still strive for healthy fats and high fiber in our foods and continue to be mindful of carbs. The entire family eats in this fashion so Sasha feels supported and so that there is uniformity in our family's lifestyle...unless you count the times I "cheat" when I go out to lunch with my friends : )
All of this is to say that I am excited to share some news about an upcoming book, Hungry for Solutions, by Marci Serota, Registered Dietician Nutritionist. In her book, Marci shares her story about her own son (also a craniopharyngioma survivor with HO) and how he successfully battled HO and hyperphagia with her nutritional and lifestyle plan. Although I learned about the lower carb lifestyle from Dr. Lustig, I have had the privilege to preview Marci's book and agree wholeheartedly with her nutritional guidance and the hopeful message it sends: even one of the most pernicious forms of childhood obesity can be tamed with healthy eating. Marci's book is coming out in November, 2018 and if you are interested, you may order it in advance and at a discount through her website: https://cranionutrition.com/. Check it out also for recipe ideas, foods to avoid, how to read a nutritional label, and other helpful topics!
Friday, August 10, 2018
114) Almost-end-of-summer update- holding steady and doing well
We have been back from our European holiday for over a month and in my last post, I wondered if returning back to our normal lifestyle would change anything about his weight. While there, although we ate foods higher in carbs and sugar, we were also walking 12 km a day on average. Lo and behold, his weight has wobbled up and down a little bit since returning from the trip but he is basically holding steady. His weight at the end of the trip (July 8) was as much as 4 kilos lighter than what he weighed at the end of the school year (mid-June). Today, his weight is about the same (80.8 kg) as what he weighed when I last posted on July 11, 2018.
His oxytocin regimen remains at 6 iu/day. When his weight was climbing up in May and June, I regret that I did not check his other lab values (especially thyroid) because I might have discovered that his T4 levels were low. Indeed, when I finally got his free T4 levels checked in early June, they were within range but on the lower end. We know that he functions better when the levels are on the higher end so we have since raised his T4 by an extra 25 mcg/day and now his levels are on the high end. Perhaps some of his weight loss and subsequent weight stabilization can be due in part to more optimal thyroid levels.
Another interesting fact is that since he seemed to tolerate eating foods higher in carbohydrates while in Europe and even lost weight, we have been more liberal with carbohydrates this summer. We've been enjoying an occasional pasta (using a higher fiber wheat pasta), sandwiches, and eating quite a bit of fresh summer fruit (we have a peach tree and blackberries in our backyard). Still, his weight has not been rising! His walking has greatly decreased from what we did in Europe but he still manages to walk at least a couple of km every day; on the weekends, we all go to the gym and for three days a week, he gets in about 5 km per day, thanks to our dear surrogate grandmother/friend and her dogs (thanks, Marla!!)
I suppose I am reporting good news overall...
1) his hormone levels appear to be optimal now;
2) he is enjoying a diet that is approaching a more "normal" lifestyle (less carb restriction);
3) he is getting some pretty decent walking exercise half the days of the week and going to the gym on the weekends;
4) his oxytocin dosing has remained the same as always;
5) his appetite is normal; he continues to get excited about getting the occasional sweets/desserts but (as far as we know), he hasn't engaged in any sneaking or stealing of these foods during the camps he has attended for the last 4 weeks;
6) he is earning money for his good behavior (no food related "disasters") and his handling of his money appears to be working since he is free to buy snacks from vending machines and stores (close proximity to his summer camps); and despite his access to money and junk food...
7) he is somehow keeping his weight at the same level it was when he returned from Europe.
Besides all this food/oxytocin/weight business, I am glad to share that he has been enjoying a great summer break- he has been enjoying two main summer camps- doing computer coding (robot programming) and performing in a rock band (vocals and guitar). In a digital recording rock band camp, he recorded this song (he sings in a duet with a female vocalist) and I'm proud of the beautiful music these kids made. The song is Stop This Train by John Mayer but the kids (all middle school and high school kids) arranged and played the music in this recording.
Listen to the very poignant lyrics, beautiful harmonies, and enjoy! Happy (rest-of-your) summer!
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1INcqwSrxa1Xvq7pPkBo4fihnyqfAJpR8/view?usp=sharing
His oxytocin regimen remains at 6 iu/day. When his weight was climbing up in May and June, I regret that I did not check his other lab values (especially thyroid) because I might have discovered that his T4 levels were low. Indeed, when I finally got his free T4 levels checked in early June, they were within range but on the lower end. We know that he functions better when the levels are on the higher end so we have since raised his T4 by an extra 25 mcg/day and now his levels are on the high end. Perhaps some of his weight loss and subsequent weight stabilization can be due in part to more optimal thyroid levels.
Another interesting fact is that since he seemed to tolerate eating foods higher in carbohydrates while in Europe and even lost weight, we have been more liberal with carbohydrates this summer. We've been enjoying an occasional pasta (using a higher fiber wheat pasta), sandwiches, and eating quite a bit of fresh summer fruit (we have a peach tree and blackberries in our backyard). Still, his weight has not been rising! His walking has greatly decreased from what we did in Europe but he still manages to walk at least a couple of km every day; on the weekends, we all go to the gym and for three days a week, he gets in about 5 km per day, thanks to our dear surrogate grandmother/friend and her dogs (thanks, Marla!!)
I suppose I am reporting good news overall...
1) his hormone levels appear to be optimal now;
2) he is enjoying a diet that is approaching a more "normal" lifestyle (less carb restriction);
3) he is getting some pretty decent walking exercise half the days of the week and going to the gym on the weekends;
4) his oxytocin dosing has remained the same as always;
5) his appetite is normal; he continues to get excited about getting the occasional sweets/desserts but (as far as we know), he hasn't engaged in any sneaking or stealing of these foods during the camps he has attended for the last 4 weeks;
6) he is earning money for his good behavior (no food related "disasters") and his handling of his money appears to be working since he is free to buy snacks from vending machines and stores (close proximity to his summer camps); and despite his access to money and junk food...
7) he is somehow keeping his weight at the same level it was when he returned from Europe.
Besides all this food/oxytocin/weight business, I am glad to share that he has been enjoying a great summer break- he has been enjoying two main summer camps- doing computer coding (robot programming) and performing in a rock band (vocals and guitar). In a digital recording rock band camp, he recorded this song (he sings in a duet with a female vocalist) and I'm proud of the beautiful music these kids made. The song is Stop This Train by John Mayer but the kids (all middle school and high school kids) arranged and played the music in this recording.
Listen to the very poignant lyrics, beautiful harmonies, and enjoy! Happy (rest-of-your) summer!
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1INcqwSrxa1Xvq7pPkBo4fihnyqfAJpR8/view?usp=sharing
Wednesday, July 11, 2018
113) The "vacation diet" does it again! What caused his weight loss?
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| Sasha and his personal pizza on our last day in Milano- it has a very thin crust but yes, it's big and yes, he ate the whole thing (minus one piece he gave to his dad)! How does someone with HO eat this much and still lose weight?? |
We just returned from a 2 week holiday in Italy and Switzerland. I could tell by the timing of the holiday that Sasha's oxytocin would expire in the middle of the trip and I didn't want to order more in advance of our trip. I decided that he would just either use expired oxytocin or he would stop using it and it would be a convenient time to do another week-long drug holiday from oxytocin (our second one; the first one occurred in April after he his weight started climbing rapidly). We ended up using expired oxytocin (expired on June 28) until about July 4 and then we just stopped it.
We also decided that we would be less restrictive about food during our trip- usually, we follow a low~ish carb lifestyle and avoid eating processed sugary foods and eat a minimal to modest amount of breads, pastas, starchy vegetables, rice, etc. We knew that we would be walking a lot and hoped that the extra exercise would help compensate for the high carb, fat, and calories that we knew we would be consuming.
When we started the trip on June 27, Sasha weighed 84.5 kg (184 cm tall). After two weeks on our trip, Sasha today (July 11) weighs 81.6 kg. This is not "water weight" because we calculate his weight based on Na level at 140 (the average WNL level for sodium). On our trip, we enjoyed three full meals a day and minimal snacking. We loved the delicious cuisine of Italy (for example, pizza, pasta, breads, gelato) and Switzerland (Rösti, sausages, cheese, chocolate). We didn't go crazy but we definitely ate foods that we would not have eaten at home. Our rule was to limit our dessert eating to only once a day (a chocolate or gelato a day keeps the doctor away!)
We also walked all day long, averaging 12 km (7 miles) per day. I was very pleased that Sasha was able to tolerate the heat (he wore a cooling vest and carried around a spray bottle) and was able to keep up with the vigorous pace of our tourist itinerary. Some families take vacations to rest and relax; we are definitely not that kind of family!
Losing nearly 3 kg (6.5 pounds) is a significant amount of weight to lose in a two week period of time in general and even more significant considering he was eating high carbohydrate, high fat, and high calorie foods through Italy and Switzerland. As far as the rest of us, I can't comment with any precision since I did not pay attention to my weight before or after the trip but I don't believe I lost or gained weight as my clothes are fitting me the same now as they did before the trip.
It's hard to say what exactly caused the weight loss but here are my speculations:
1. The amount of daily walking exercise helped Sasha burn the calories he was ingesting to help him lose weight.
2. In spite of eating higher carb foods, we did not snack much on the trip. At home, Sasha has free access to the snack cabinet and I believe he indulges in more regular snacking (usually nuts, cheese, salami).
3. Pausing the oxytocin may have also contributed to the weight loss. It's possible that chronic oxytocin treatment is optimized when there are drug holidays so that the receptors have a chance to "rest".
4. We increased his T4 just before leaving for vacation so that his T4 would be in a more optimal (top third) range since he was gaining weight and his T4 came in low at his last check up.
He just restarted a new batch of 6 iu oxytocin today so we will see what happens going forward. Of course, it will be difficult to know if any weight or appetite changes we detect now will be due to adding back oxytocin, exercising less than we did while on vacation, resuming his usual snacking, or some other factor that I have not yet considered. For now, we will resume our usual regimen (6 iu of oxytocin/day) and lowish carb food plan. We believe that Sasha is at a healthy weight and that weight loss is not the goal; rather, we would like to see him maintain his current weight by increasing his exercise and perhaps even be able to enjoy more pasta and pizza provided that he sticks to a healthy weight.
Sunday, June 3, 2018
112) Dear Family and Friends: This is how I do it.
I've written a few posts by now on the challenges of special needs parenting. Most of the time, I think, I write while keeping in mind that my readers (you) are "insiders" in the world of brain tumors, hypothalamic obesity, PWS, hypopituitarism, etc. In my last post, I wrote a letter addressed to doctor parents and today, I write a letter addressed to family and friends who are not "insiders."
Dear Family and Friends,
"I don't know how you do it" is a common expression I often hear from you regarding your incredulous admiration for what I do to keep my child optimally healthy and happy. Of course, you can't possibly know "how I do it" or what I even "do" because you haven't had to live through our particular life circumstances. However, I'm pretty certain that if you had to do it, you would; it's not heroism, it's just parenting under duress. Chronic duress.
Although on the face of it, "I don't know how you do it" is a sentiment that expresses your marvel of the feat of our parenting responsibilities, I find that it is also a way of putting emotional distance between your experience and mine; my problems require certain extraordinary parenting measures and yours do not. This comment about the unthinkability of our ordeal is probably because you'd rather keep the problem off your mind and thank GOD (you think), you can. I don't blame you at all. Before my child's diagnosis, I would have felt the same way. However, despite what I do, I don't feel like a superhero when I'm parenting...I don't want to be admired and I don't want to be pitied but it would be really helpful if you could please read this to try to understand "what I do and how I do it."
As you can probably guess, being a special needs parent is stressful and tiring- the tasks involved in keeping my child alive and out of the hospital, for example, require a great deal of time and energy. In our case, much of our time is spent trying to keep my child's body in homeostasis (thanks to a damaged hypothalamus). Having adipsic diabetes insipidus is probably the most stressful thing we've had to manage, besides the HO and hyperphagia. Weighing him frequently throughout the day, checking his blood for electrolyte balance, and nagging him to drink water while being mindful of his urine output is a task that requires constant vigilance, lest his electrolytes go out of whack (which they can and do many times a day). We have had this experience just last week as he had to go to the emergency room by ambulance and stay overnight at the PICU for rehydration and electrolyte rebalancing.
To illustrate the challenges of managing adipsic DI, the best metaphor I have for this experience is this:
Imagine your child's entire life is lived on a circus tightrope very high in the air without a net. Imagine your child has a condition that makes it difficult for him to stay awake and alert on his own (yes, even with his own alarm clocks). Imagine you are on the ground in the circus ring, constantly shouting up at your child to wake him from his slumber so he can keep his balance and not fall to his death. Your voice is hoarse and you are tired of shouting at him to stay awake but his tightrope is long and he has to walk it in his sleepy condition for the rest of his life. You wish you could go up there with him to keep him awake and safe but there is no room on the tightrope for you and you can't leave your post on the ground because you need to be there to catch him if he falls. Imagine the tightrope is in an outdoor arena and all of the above needs to be accomplished irrespective of the (foul) weather conditions that are bound to occur.
The high maintenance responsibilities seem never ending, and for us, adipsic DI management is but one of the many things we have to do. The list goes on and on but I won't belabor this point anymore. Trying to keep my kid awake on that tightrope is enough to explain "what I do."
Besides the obvious exhaustion and stress of doing this crazy tightrope act, being a special needs parent is also lonely. As the years pass, I notice his typical peers growing up and becoming more independent, able to do so because they are not living a life up on this tightrope with their chronic medical conditions. While I don't want to censor you from talking with me about your typically developing child, I must admit that it isn't always easy to hear from you. When you are complaining about your child's (normal) problems with his friends, I am envious because I wish I could say my kid had friends. When you express your worries about your child's sports injury and how it will affect his season, I am filled with longing because your child was able to play the sports to injure himself in the first place. Even reading the high school newsletter and seeing the announcements about job fairs, travel opportunities, and college applications pains me because I cannot help but think about what my child may never do because of his health conditions and disabilities. Don't get me wrong- I still have hopes and dreams for my child; it's just that the hopes and dreams for a full life are much, much harder to realize up there on that tightrope, you see. Even witnessing ordinary life for a typical teen can be anguishing. The other day, I attended a variety show that was put on by my kid's high school choir program. It was a bittersweet experience to watch the high school kids bonding over their music and friendship. While my kid was physically present and participating in the show, I could see that he was an outsider to this normal teenage experience. The joys of friendship and fun that I witnessed at the performance ended up making me feel that much more sadness for seeing what he was missing out on in life.
Again, I don't want you to censor yourself around me because I still want to have open and honest communications in our friendship. I guess I have to admit that I also need to uphold my end of the bargain because I've had to limit my communications with you somewhat in order to protect myself from the sad feelings that arise when I hear about or see your kid's normal life. While I am glad for you to hear (good) news about your child, sometimes it makes me sad for my child. For obvious reasons, I can't easily tell you that I feel sad when I see that your kid is healthy, happy and successful. As you can see, this dilemma can leave me feeling stuck and lonely.
To my inner circle of family and friends, you are there by my side and I greatly appreciate it. Thank you for being there for me, for listening, for spending time with our family and with my kid, and for giving me a break when I need it. Despite the problems we have, I do my best to rally and to most, I probably appear to be normal, perhaps even "high functioning." My apparent normalcy does come at a cost, however, as it is a struggle to keep up the energy to maintain it and I often feel like I am failing those of you if I haven't reciprocated a dinner invitation that I owe you, for example. Sometimes I don't call as often as I would like to because I am feeling down or anxious and I don't want to be a bummer or burden you with my never ending problems.
To those of you in the more outer circles of my community, please excuse my absenteeism. I so wish I had the energy and time and enthusiasm to join you for all the fun social outings I used to do with you. My retreat was necessitated because of my kid's high maintenance issues; after almost 7 years, they aren't letting up and I don't know if they ever will. If I seem unavailable or less friendly than I used to be, there's no need to take it personally. I don't mean to be so socially withdrawn and I hope what I've written here can help explain myself to you. I suppose this is why I have largely turned to a community of other special needs parents and others who are going through the same health challenges because I don't have to explain myself with them and it is just easier than pretending to live a normal life or explaining and having to hear "I don't know how you do it," over and over again.
If you are still engaged after reading this, you may be wondering if there is anything you can do to be supportive or helpful. It is my hope that reading this will help you better understand my feelings and experiences as a special needs parent. I don't expect you to understand as an insider understands but I hope that what I've written here will allow you to come a little closer to me and keep me company at ringside while I coach my kid across that tightrope of his life.
Dear Family and Friends,
"I don't know how you do it" is a common expression I often hear from you regarding your incredulous admiration for what I do to keep my child optimally healthy and happy. Of course, you can't possibly know "how I do it" or what I even "do" because you haven't had to live through our particular life circumstances. However, I'm pretty certain that if you had to do it, you would; it's not heroism, it's just parenting under duress. Chronic duress.
Although on the face of it, "I don't know how you do it" is a sentiment that expresses your marvel of the feat of our parenting responsibilities, I find that it is also a way of putting emotional distance between your experience and mine; my problems require certain extraordinary parenting measures and yours do not. This comment about the unthinkability of our ordeal is probably because you'd rather keep the problem off your mind and thank GOD (you think), you can. I don't blame you at all. Before my child's diagnosis, I would have felt the same way. However, despite what I do, I don't feel like a superhero when I'm parenting...I don't want to be admired and I don't want to be pitied but it would be really helpful if you could please read this to try to understand "what I do and how I do it."
As you can probably guess, being a special needs parent is stressful and tiring- the tasks involved in keeping my child alive and out of the hospital, for example, require a great deal of time and energy. In our case, much of our time is spent trying to keep my child's body in homeostasis (thanks to a damaged hypothalamus). Having adipsic diabetes insipidus is probably the most stressful thing we've had to manage, besides the HO and hyperphagia. Weighing him frequently throughout the day, checking his blood for electrolyte balance, and nagging him to drink water while being mindful of his urine output is a task that requires constant vigilance, lest his electrolytes go out of whack (which they can and do many times a day). We have had this experience just last week as he had to go to the emergency room by ambulance and stay overnight at the PICU for rehydration and electrolyte rebalancing.
To illustrate the challenges of managing adipsic DI, the best metaphor I have for this experience is this:
Imagine your child's entire life is lived on a circus tightrope very high in the air without a net. Imagine your child has a condition that makes it difficult for him to stay awake and alert on his own (yes, even with his own alarm clocks). Imagine you are on the ground in the circus ring, constantly shouting up at your child to wake him from his slumber so he can keep his balance and not fall to his death. Your voice is hoarse and you are tired of shouting at him to stay awake but his tightrope is long and he has to walk it in his sleepy condition for the rest of his life. You wish you could go up there with him to keep him awake and safe but there is no room on the tightrope for you and you can't leave your post on the ground because you need to be there to catch him if he falls. Imagine the tightrope is in an outdoor arena and all of the above needs to be accomplished irrespective of the (foul) weather conditions that are bound to occur.
The high maintenance responsibilities seem never ending, and for us, adipsic DI management is but one of the many things we have to do. The list goes on and on but I won't belabor this point anymore. Trying to keep my kid awake on that tightrope is enough to explain "what I do."
Besides the obvious exhaustion and stress of doing this crazy tightrope act, being a special needs parent is also lonely. As the years pass, I notice his typical peers growing up and becoming more independent, able to do so because they are not living a life up on this tightrope with their chronic medical conditions. While I don't want to censor you from talking with me about your typically developing child, I must admit that it isn't always easy to hear from you. When you are complaining about your child's (normal) problems with his friends, I am envious because I wish I could say my kid had friends. When you express your worries about your child's sports injury and how it will affect his season, I am filled with longing because your child was able to play the sports to injure himself in the first place. Even reading the high school newsletter and seeing the announcements about job fairs, travel opportunities, and college applications pains me because I cannot help but think about what my child may never do because of his health conditions and disabilities. Don't get me wrong- I still have hopes and dreams for my child; it's just that the hopes and dreams for a full life are much, much harder to realize up there on that tightrope, you see. Even witnessing ordinary life for a typical teen can be anguishing. The other day, I attended a variety show that was put on by my kid's high school choir program. It was a bittersweet experience to watch the high school kids bonding over their music and friendship. While my kid was physically present and participating in the show, I could see that he was an outsider to this normal teenage experience. The joys of friendship and fun that I witnessed at the performance ended up making me feel that much more sadness for seeing what he was missing out on in life.
Again, I don't want you to censor yourself around me because I still want to have open and honest communications in our friendship. I guess I have to admit that I also need to uphold my end of the bargain because I've had to limit my communications with you somewhat in order to protect myself from the sad feelings that arise when I hear about or see your kid's normal life. While I am glad for you to hear (good) news about your child, sometimes it makes me sad for my child. For obvious reasons, I can't easily tell you that I feel sad when I see that your kid is healthy, happy and successful. As you can see, this dilemma can leave me feeling stuck and lonely.
To my inner circle of family and friends, you are there by my side and I greatly appreciate it. Thank you for being there for me, for listening, for spending time with our family and with my kid, and for giving me a break when I need it. Despite the problems we have, I do my best to rally and to most, I probably appear to be normal, perhaps even "high functioning." My apparent normalcy does come at a cost, however, as it is a struggle to keep up the energy to maintain it and I often feel like I am failing those of you if I haven't reciprocated a dinner invitation that I owe you, for example. Sometimes I don't call as often as I would like to because I am feeling down or anxious and I don't want to be a bummer or burden you with my never ending problems.
To those of you in the more outer circles of my community, please excuse my absenteeism. I so wish I had the energy and time and enthusiasm to join you for all the fun social outings I used to do with you. My retreat was necessitated because of my kid's high maintenance issues; after almost 7 years, they aren't letting up and I don't know if they ever will. If I seem unavailable or less friendly than I used to be, there's no need to take it personally. I don't mean to be so socially withdrawn and I hope what I've written here can help explain myself to you. I suppose this is why I have largely turned to a community of other special needs parents and others who are going through the same health challenges because I don't have to explain myself with them and it is just easier than pretending to live a normal life or explaining and having to hear "I don't know how you do it," over and over again.
If you are still engaged after reading this, you may be wondering if there is anything you can do to be supportive or helpful. It is my hope that reading this will help you better understand my feelings and experiences as a special needs parent. I don't expect you to understand as an insider understands but I hope that what I've written here will allow you to come a little closer to me and keep me company at ringside while I coach my kid across that tightrope of his life.
Wednesday, May 16, 2018
111) Dear Doctor: a parent to parent letter to my child's doctor
Dear Doctor,
Mother's Day was celebrated just last weekend and in honor of Mother's Day, I would like to write a letter on behalf of the parents who are fighting for the lives of their chronically ill children. As a mother to a boy who suffers from chronic conditions resulting from a craniopharyngioma, I understand all too well the hardships that face the families who deal with the devastating effects of life-threatening and life-changing illnesses.
Our story of desperation to find help for my son's untreated hypothalamic obesity and hyperphagia is documented in detail in this blog and led to our successful experimentation with oxytocin and a publication of a case report in the JCEM https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/29220529. On the topic of oxytocin's effects on appetite reduction, energy metabolism, weight loss, lipolysis, etc., there exist a good number of basic science (animal model) research, some preclinical studies, but insufficient drug trial studies as of yet. There have been some clinical studies in the PWS population and currently, there are a couple of ongoing oxytocin and obesity studies now (for children at CHOP https://clinicaltrials.gov/ct2/show/NCT02849743 and for adults at Mass General https://clinicaltrials.gov/ct2/show/NCT03043053). We eagerly await the results with baited breath and hope that the results they find will provide more help to sufferers. Please see post #8 in this blog for a selected and non-exhaustive list of some pertinent published papers.
Since I have begun this oxytocin experimentation and blog, I believe that it has given others hope for a condition whose treatment options are poor to nonexistent. Many parents and patients have told me that they have asked for a prescription from their endocrinologists but have been turned down. Most endocrinologists cite "lack of research" but many appear not to know about the important role of this missing hormone. It's no wonder there is ignorance among endocrinologists since it is not replaced as a standard of care for hypopituitarism and not even mentioned in the Endocrine Society's Clinical Practice Guideline for Hormone Replacement in Adults. https://academic.oup.com/jcem/article/101/11/3888/2764912. I find it both perplexing and maddening that untreated symptoms (obesity/hyperphagia, social impairment, among others) which correspond almost perfectly with the functioning role of a missing hormone (oxytocin), are totally overlooked by clinical endocrinology in the care for craniopharyngioma patients and others with hypothalamic obesity and hyperphagia.
Although my words are shared here in this blog, I know that other families are also crying out for help and feeling largely unheard. The families I know who have asked their doctors for help often feel that no help is offered because, well, evidence-based treatment options are not readily available for this condition. When they receive the "no" to their request for an experimental agent like oxytocin, they are told that "there is insufficient research" or "we don't yet know about the safety or long term effects." I understand the need for more research and I understand the needs for precaution; my sense is that most physicians do not understand that patients and their families are living RIGHT NOW without safety and without health. To be asked to wait into the future for safe, effective and tested treatment is akin to telling the starving peasants, "let them eat cake."
I ask you, as a physician and a parent, to consider some of the real HO and hyperphagia cases (due to craniopharyngioma). The four cases below contain actual details of real cases but the identifying information (gender, age) has been changed.
Imagine that this was your own child:
1. You lock up all of your food for fear your child will eat continuously due to his hyperphagia. Even small kitchen appliances are locked up (such as can openers) lest he find food left out. One day, a can of beans is accidentally left out. Your child finds the can of beans, attempts to open it by smashing the top against the sharp corner of the kitchen counter, pierces a hole in the top, pries the rest of the can open with his bare hands, and cuts his hands deep enough in the process to require stitches. Every last bean was eaten before his cut hand was discovered. When you ask him why he hurt himself so badly over it, he says simply, "because I was hungry, mommy." You ask him to promise you that he will never do it again. He looks down and shakes his head but cannot make the promise.
2. You lock up all of your food for fear your child will eat continuously due to her hyperphagia. Your child is obese and gaining weight steadily despite a very stringent and healthy diet. One night, she successfully picks open the lock on the freezer and you wake up to find her gnawing on a frozen and raw chicken breast. You are also required to lock up garbage to be mindful of the food waste that is thrown away for fear that it will also attract your hungry child.
3. Your young teenager has suffered for most of his life with hyperphagia and obesity and is finally taken out of public school because his school continues to fail in keeping him safe from food. Too many parties at school, tossed food in the garbage cans, and unwatched lunches belonging to other children, are strategically and stealthily snuck by your child. He has stolen money from you and has stolen food from stores. You are required to quit your job so that you can stay home to home school your child. The loss of income and the stress on your family is felt by all members of the family. Your marriage and mental health suffer. Your teen reports that he is suicidal over the loss of a normal life.
4. Your child suffers from rapid weight gain but does not have an excessive appetite. Still, no matter how strict her diet, she cannot lose weight. She has become so obese that she cannot find clothes that fit her properly. Her obesity has caused her to have difficulties walking. She comes home from school crying every day because children are cruel. She eats lunch alone in the bathroom to avoid their tormenting stares. She is bright but her grades are suffering because she has become increasingly avoidant and often refuses to go to school. She tells you that she cannot face the children at school because she is "fat and ugly." Your child is only 10 years old and you are terrified of how much worse it will be when she becomes an adolescent.
What would you do if your child experienced what I described above? If nothing exists now to treat hyperphagia, would you wait for medical science to find the effective treatments and for FDA approval? Or would you hasten medical science and consider alternative treatments, even if novel or experimental?
Most parents I know who are living through these gut wrenching situations are willing to do anything to save their children from the hellish circumstances that accompany HO and hyperphagia. I know that scientific inquiry takes time and that it is important to investigate the efficacy and safety of drug treatments. I don't expect a physician to apply treatment to a patient without knowing the safety, side effect, and therapeutic efficacy profiles of the drug. I only ask that when sitting with your patients and their families, please be sensitive when refusing a novel treatment because "there's insufficient research to ascertain safety and efficacy" when your patient's currently lived experience is already the farthest thing from safe or effective. Out of respect to the families, please consider what you would do if it were your child suffering before you dismiss their request for a novel intervention such as oxytocin. If you are not conversant on the existing research, please read it and consider the pros and cons on prescribing versus withholding treatment.
Thank you.
Mother's Day was celebrated just last weekend and in honor of Mother's Day, I would like to write a letter on behalf of the parents who are fighting for the lives of their chronically ill children. As a mother to a boy who suffers from chronic conditions resulting from a craniopharyngioma, I understand all too well the hardships that face the families who deal with the devastating effects of life-threatening and life-changing illnesses.
Our story of desperation to find help for my son's untreated hypothalamic obesity and hyperphagia is documented in detail in this blog and led to our successful experimentation with oxytocin and a publication of a case report in the JCEM https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/29220529. On the topic of oxytocin's effects on appetite reduction, energy metabolism, weight loss, lipolysis, etc., there exist a good number of basic science (animal model) research, some preclinical studies, but insufficient drug trial studies as of yet. There have been some clinical studies in the PWS population and currently, there are a couple of ongoing oxytocin and obesity studies now (for children at CHOP https://clinicaltrials.gov/ct2/show/NCT02849743 and for adults at Mass General https://clinicaltrials.gov/ct2/show/NCT03043053). We eagerly await the results with baited breath and hope that the results they find will provide more help to sufferers. Please see post #8 in this blog for a selected and non-exhaustive list of some pertinent published papers.
Since I have begun this oxytocin experimentation and blog, I believe that it has given others hope for a condition whose treatment options are poor to nonexistent. Many parents and patients have told me that they have asked for a prescription from their endocrinologists but have been turned down. Most endocrinologists cite "lack of research" but many appear not to know about the important role of this missing hormone. It's no wonder there is ignorance among endocrinologists since it is not replaced as a standard of care for hypopituitarism and not even mentioned in the Endocrine Society's Clinical Practice Guideline for Hormone Replacement in Adults. https://academic.oup.com/jcem/article/101/11/3888/2764912. I find it both perplexing and maddening that untreated symptoms (obesity/hyperphagia, social impairment, among others) which correspond almost perfectly with the functioning role of a missing hormone (oxytocin), are totally overlooked by clinical endocrinology in the care for craniopharyngioma patients and others with hypothalamic obesity and hyperphagia.
Although my words are shared here in this blog, I know that other families are also crying out for help and feeling largely unheard. The families I know who have asked their doctors for help often feel that no help is offered because, well, evidence-based treatment options are not readily available for this condition. When they receive the "no" to their request for an experimental agent like oxytocin, they are told that "there is insufficient research" or "we don't yet know about the safety or long term effects." I understand the need for more research and I understand the needs for precaution; my sense is that most physicians do not understand that patients and their families are living RIGHT NOW without safety and without health. To be asked to wait into the future for safe, effective and tested treatment is akin to telling the starving peasants, "let them eat cake."
I ask you, as a physician and a parent, to consider some of the real HO and hyperphagia cases (due to craniopharyngioma). The four cases below contain actual details of real cases but the identifying information (gender, age) has been changed.
Imagine that this was your own child:
1. You lock up all of your food for fear your child will eat continuously due to his hyperphagia. Even small kitchen appliances are locked up (such as can openers) lest he find food left out. One day, a can of beans is accidentally left out. Your child finds the can of beans, attempts to open it by smashing the top against the sharp corner of the kitchen counter, pierces a hole in the top, pries the rest of the can open with his bare hands, and cuts his hands deep enough in the process to require stitches. Every last bean was eaten before his cut hand was discovered. When you ask him why he hurt himself so badly over it, he says simply, "because I was hungry, mommy." You ask him to promise you that he will never do it again. He looks down and shakes his head but cannot make the promise.
2. You lock up all of your food for fear your child will eat continuously due to her hyperphagia. Your child is obese and gaining weight steadily despite a very stringent and healthy diet. One night, she successfully picks open the lock on the freezer and you wake up to find her gnawing on a frozen and raw chicken breast. You are also required to lock up garbage to be mindful of the food waste that is thrown away for fear that it will also attract your hungry child.
3. Your young teenager has suffered for most of his life with hyperphagia and obesity and is finally taken out of public school because his school continues to fail in keeping him safe from food. Too many parties at school, tossed food in the garbage cans, and unwatched lunches belonging to other children, are strategically and stealthily snuck by your child. He has stolen money from you and has stolen food from stores. You are required to quit your job so that you can stay home to home school your child. The loss of income and the stress on your family is felt by all members of the family. Your marriage and mental health suffer. Your teen reports that he is suicidal over the loss of a normal life.
4. Your child suffers from rapid weight gain but does not have an excessive appetite. Still, no matter how strict her diet, she cannot lose weight. She has become so obese that she cannot find clothes that fit her properly. Her obesity has caused her to have difficulties walking. She comes home from school crying every day because children are cruel. She eats lunch alone in the bathroom to avoid their tormenting stares. She is bright but her grades are suffering because she has become increasingly avoidant and often refuses to go to school. She tells you that she cannot face the children at school because she is "fat and ugly." Your child is only 10 years old and you are terrified of how much worse it will be when she becomes an adolescent.
What would you do if your child experienced what I described above? If nothing exists now to treat hyperphagia, would you wait for medical science to find the effective treatments and for FDA approval? Or would you hasten medical science and consider alternative treatments, even if novel or experimental?
Most parents I know who are living through these gut wrenching situations are willing to do anything to save their children from the hellish circumstances that accompany HO and hyperphagia. I know that scientific inquiry takes time and that it is important to investigate the efficacy and safety of drug treatments. I don't expect a physician to apply treatment to a patient without knowing the safety, side effect, and therapeutic efficacy profiles of the drug. I only ask that when sitting with your patients and their families, please be sensitive when refusing a novel treatment because "there's insufficient research to ascertain safety and efficacy" when your patient's currently lived experience is already the farthest thing from safe or effective. Out of respect to the families, please consider what you would do if it were your child suffering before you dismiss their request for a novel intervention such as oxytocin. If you are not conversant on the existing research, please read it and consider the pros and cons on prescribing versus withholding treatment.
Thank you.
Saturday, May 12, 2018
110) Finding balance in our circus act of life
Ordinary life sometimes feels like a circus act. Trying to manage all the complications of complete hormone loss DEFINITELY feels like a circus act! In our case, when I realized that some of the therapeutic effects of chronic oxytocin treatment wear off over time, I started to experiment (again) with finding an optimal dosing schedule. We have done a 10-day washout, then added OT back on a daily dose (and saw weight loss again), then went to intermittent every 3-day dosing (which stabilized weight for a while), then returned to daily dosing again (because he started regaining weight again). This experience feels like the act where the circus artist is trying to keep his balance in roller skates while standing on a board that is rolling back on forth on a cylinder... can we find a way to keep oxytocin's therapeutic effects (stable weight) without causing drug tolerance? So far, his weight is wobbling up and down and is staying in the same weight range (give or take 0.5 to 1 kg) in the last two months. He looks healthy to me and it’s certainly possible that weight gain and resultant higher BMI in the last 6 months (to 24.8, the 90th% at 6 feet tall and 183 pounds or 183 cm and 83 kg) now can partly be attributed to his broadening shoulders and more muscle mass- see for yourself:
To make things more complex (and you know those circus artists always keep adding more complicated things to their acts), we decided to test his ability to handle himself with increased food freedom by rewarding him monetarily for his honesty. First, a little background: even though the oxytocin/naltrexone has been helpful in decreasing his hyperphagia (intense appetite drive) which has permitted us to unlock our kitchen and stop policing him in the home, we still had episodic reports from school that Sasha continued to sneak sweets. My case report references this as “hedonic food seeking continued in the absence of homeostatic hunger” or something to that effect. The incidents were largely opportunistic; there are often treats in the classroom and Sasha's lower carb lifestyle (dating back to before we ever started oxytocin) has dictated (in his IEP) that he is restricted from indulging in the cookies, cakes, and candies that are often sold or available at school. No fair! I can only imagine how hard this has been for him and it’s no wonder he has resorted to sneaking or grabbing these foods when he felt he had a chance to take them. These food restrictions harken back to the pre-oxytocin days when he was stealing food left and right. "No fair" is certainly true but more important than fairness, we felt that restricting him from sweets was possibly causing him to feel deprived, and causing him feel the need to steal them. Given that we do not want him to continue these behaviors or have to always keep him under scrutiny around sweets or even worse, never give him a chance to become independent, we knew we had to do something. Ultimately, if Sasha is ever to be come an independent adult in the real world, he will need to learn how to handle himself around all types of food.
At 15 and with only a little more than three years to go before graduating from high school, we decided that we could no longer afford to protect him from sugar. We decided that it was preferable for him to be "fat and free" rather than "thin and in(carcerated)" and that he absolutely needs to stop sneaking or taking foods that do not belong to him, period.
In case you are wondering about his food; his eating habits at home continue to be about the same as it's been in the last few years. We keep to a relatively low-ish carb food plan: we eat mostly unprocessed whole foods (high fiber vegetables, meat, eggs, dairy, nuts and seeds, legumes, whole fruit and eat a modest/low amount of whole grains like whole wheat bread, oats or corn). The main thing we do not keep in the house is processed snack foods or anything with added sugar (with some exceptions like a birthday cake or ice cream for a special occasion).
With the roller skate-wearing-balancing-on-a-board-balancing-on-a-rolling-cylinder act, now we introduce some juggling balls... we have designed a new plan and have given Sasha a goal with a reward. The goal is to steer totally clear of touching or taking anything (usually high carb foods). The reward for not stealing food (or trying to cover up or lie about it) is to earn $1 per day for each day of honesty. The punishment for stealing (and lying about it) is a fine of $10. The punishment for merely stealing (but admitting it right away when confronted, no lying) is $5. There is no statute of limitations so if we receive a report even weeks later, he will still be fined- the fines comes from his savings so each day is a fresh start and he still can earn that dollar if he keeps himself honest. Also, we have let him know that even suspicious behavior (wandering or loitering uninvited into a room with food, for example) will be counted against him. In other words, he needs to be totally transparent and behave with vigorous honesty so as not to raise any suspicions. We check in with his teacher (who has his aides make notes on paper every day) at the end of the week for her report.
We've been doing this for about three weeks now and so far, it's going well. He had one slip on the weekend with a family friend (took some food from her but admitted it right away = minus $5) but no actual reports of stealing at school, yay! His teacher reports that he does seem to circle around food to check it out but does not get close enough to touch it. Now for the first time ever in his life, the deal enables him to possess money to spend on... anything he wants. Of course, this means that he can purchase cookies, candy or whatever they sell at the (frequent) bake sales at his high school.
As far as we know, he is taking advantage of his new found freedom and has been seen eating cookies in the morning but as far as we know, it isn’t daily and the cookies are purchased with his own money. I can only hope that the novelty of the cookie buying power will wear off and that he will be able to practice some self control if his weight begins to rise out of control again. “Hope” is the key word here, of course, since I have little control over him now and will definitely have no control when I’m dead and gone. Better to start now training him and take the risks (obesity) than wait until he is 18 and old enough to be prosecuted as an adult for theft. Like I said, better fat and free than thin and in(carcerated)!
You can see how these new juggling balls can complicate the roller skate balancing act. He may very well gain weight and we won’t know how much is due to the limitations of oxytocin versus his ingestion of too many cookies. Oh, well. As much as I would like to have a tightly controlled study environment in a closely supervised and locked laboratory setting, we don't have that and can't have that because it is not real life. For better or worse, we have to prioritize our parenting experiment over our oxytocin experiment.
Life is like a live circus act... there are no guarantees that life or the show will go as planned. Now we are practicing for the removal of the "safety net" and just hope he doesn’t hurt himself too badly when he falls. I suppose we can replace the net if he demonstrates that he can't handle life without it but we have to take it down sooner or later and we owe it to him and to ourselves to see if he can handle it for the sake of his development into a trustworthy, independent adult.
First train the kid with the net, then remove it and hope for the best. Isn’t that what parenting is about, after all?
To make things more complex (and you know those circus artists always keep adding more complicated things to their acts), we decided to test his ability to handle himself with increased food freedom by rewarding him monetarily for his honesty. First, a little background: even though the oxytocin/naltrexone has been helpful in decreasing his hyperphagia (intense appetite drive) which has permitted us to unlock our kitchen and stop policing him in the home, we still had episodic reports from school that Sasha continued to sneak sweets. My case report references this as “hedonic food seeking continued in the absence of homeostatic hunger” or something to that effect. The incidents were largely opportunistic; there are often treats in the classroom and Sasha's lower carb lifestyle (dating back to before we ever started oxytocin) has dictated (in his IEP) that he is restricted from indulging in the cookies, cakes, and candies that are often sold or available at school. No fair! I can only imagine how hard this has been for him and it’s no wonder he has resorted to sneaking or grabbing these foods when he felt he had a chance to take them. These food restrictions harken back to the pre-oxytocin days when he was stealing food left and right. "No fair" is certainly true but more important than fairness, we felt that restricting him from sweets was possibly causing him to feel deprived, and causing him feel the need to steal them. Given that we do not want him to continue these behaviors or have to always keep him under scrutiny around sweets or even worse, never give him a chance to become independent, we knew we had to do something. Ultimately, if Sasha is ever to be come an independent adult in the real world, he will need to learn how to handle himself around all types of food.
At 15 and with only a little more than three years to go before graduating from high school, we decided that we could no longer afford to protect him from sugar. We decided that it was preferable for him to be "fat and free" rather than "thin and in(carcerated)" and that he absolutely needs to stop sneaking or taking foods that do not belong to him, period.
In case you are wondering about his food; his eating habits at home continue to be about the same as it's been in the last few years. We keep to a relatively low-ish carb food plan: we eat mostly unprocessed whole foods (high fiber vegetables, meat, eggs, dairy, nuts and seeds, legumes, whole fruit and eat a modest/low amount of whole grains like whole wheat bread, oats or corn). The main thing we do not keep in the house is processed snack foods or anything with added sugar (with some exceptions like a birthday cake or ice cream for a special occasion).
With the roller skate-wearing-balancing-on-a-board-balancing-on-a-rolling-cylinder act, now we introduce some juggling balls... we have designed a new plan and have given Sasha a goal with a reward. The goal is to steer totally clear of touching or taking anything (usually high carb foods). The reward for not stealing food (or trying to cover up or lie about it) is to earn $1 per day for each day of honesty. The punishment for stealing (and lying about it) is a fine of $10. The punishment for merely stealing (but admitting it right away when confronted, no lying) is $5. There is no statute of limitations so if we receive a report even weeks later, he will still be fined- the fines comes from his savings so each day is a fresh start and he still can earn that dollar if he keeps himself honest. Also, we have let him know that even suspicious behavior (wandering or loitering uninvited into a room with food, for example) will be counted against him. In other words, he needs to be totally transparent and behave with vigorous honesty so as not to raise any suspicions. We check in with his teacher (who has his aides make notes on paper every day) at the end of the week for her report.
We've been doing this for about three weeks now and so far, it's going well. He had one slip on the weekend with a family friend (took some food from her but admitted it right away = minus $5) but no actual reports of stealing at school, yay! His teacher reports that he does seem to circle around food to check it out but does not get close enough to touch it. Now for the first time ever in his life, the deal enables him to possess money to spend on... anything he wants. Of course, this means that he can purchase cookies, candy or whatever they sell at the (frequent) bake sales at his high school.
As far as we know, he is taking advantage of his new found freedom and has been seen eating cookies in the morning but as far as we know, it isn’t daily and the cookies are purchased with his own money. I can only hope that the novelty of the cookie buying power will wear off and that he will be able to practice some self control if his weight begins to rise out of control again. “Hope” is the key word here, of course, since I have little control over him now and will definitely have no control when I’m dead and gone. Better to start now training him and take the risks (obesity) than wait until he is 18 and old enough to be prosecuted as an adult for theft. Like I said, better fat and free than thin and in(carcerated)!
You can see how these new juggling balls can complicate the roller skate balancing act. He may very well gain weight and we won’t know how much is due to the limitations of oxytocin versus his ingestion of too many cookies. Oh, well. As much as I would like to have a tightly controlled study environment in a closely supervised and locked laboratory setting, we don't have that and can't have that because it is not real life. For better or worse, we have to prioritize our parenting experiment over our oxytocin experiment.
Life is like a live circus act... there are no guarantees that life or the show will go as planned. Now we are practicing for the removal of the "safety net" and just hope he doesn’t hurt himself too badly when he falls. I suppose we can replace the net if he demonstrates that he can't handle life without it but we have to take it down sooner or later and we owe it to him and to ourselves to see if he can handle it for the sake of his development into a trustworthy, independent adult.
First train the kid with the net, then remove it and hope for the best. Isn’t that what parenting is about, after all?
Tuesday, May 1, 2018
109) Calling all caregivers, how are you?
This is a post dedicated to the
caretakers/parents caring for a family member/child with chronic and/or life
threatening illness.
How are you doing? How are you feeling? How has life been treating you of late? Yes, YOU.
As a caretaker/parent, I don't think we have enough people inquiring into our emotional welfare and asking us these important questions (and sticking around long enough to truly LISTEN to the answer) because we are expected to be resilient and capable (plus the lives of our chronically ill loved ones depend on it). Even if we had someone sincerely asking us these questions, it becomes so hard to answer. There is fear that the answer won't be understood and will result in intensified feelings of alienation, or that it will be judged, or that any words we find will fail to describe the complexity of the experience of caring for a person with chronic and/or life threatening conditions.
How are you doing? How are you feeling? How has life been treating you of late? Yes, YOU.
As a caretaker/parent, I don't think we have enough people inquiring into our emotional welfare and asking us these important questions (and sticking around long enough to truly LISTEN to the answer) because we are expected to be resilient and capable (plus the lives of our chronically ill loved ones depend on it). Even if we had someone sincerely asking us these questions, it becomes so hard to answer. There is fear that the answer won't be understood and will result in intensified feelings of alienation, or that it will be judged, or that any words we find will fail to describe the complexity of the experience of caring for a person with chronic and/or life threatening conditions.
In my work life as a clinical psychologist, I truly love my work and feel privileged to be entrusted with the innermost thoughts and feelings of my patients. I specialize in working with adults with severe trauma (mostly childhood abuse and neglect) so witnessing and holding their pain can be a heavy burden. Even though I am a professional, I'm sure it has taken a toll on me over the past 25 years. In spite of the challenges of working in a profession that is intimately involved in witnessing and trying relieve the intense suffering of others, I would still say that "I go to work to relax."
In my home life as a cranio mom, like many of you, I deal with the stress involved in the high maintenance care of managing my kid's chronic health problems and overall functioning. To prove my point, I could provide a long list of all the tasks my husband and I do to keep him alive and optimally well but I am tired (right now) from doing them ad nauseam day in and day out and listing them will make me feel even more tired (so I will spare us all but perhaps you know the list or have your own hellish version of that list). As equally (or even more?) difficult as dealing with the known daily challenges, is the disquieting anxiety that weighs in my mind about his unknown future (what happens after high school, what would happen to him if we weren't here to do what we do to keep him alive and well, will he ever be able to live independently, what will happen to him after we die?)
What is the toll of being a caretaker for a loved one with chronic illness? There is of course the toll on our resources- namely energy, time, and money. There is only a limited amount of resources one has and when so much energy has to be devoted to keeping a chronically and/or acutely sick child alive and optimally well, there's little leftover to be enjoyed. We are 6.5 years into this journey and man, it is a marathon!
Besides the obvious drain on these resources, there is also an impact on our own mental and physical health. Although I choose to take care of my son because I love him and will do everything in my power to provide the best life for him, I would be lying if I told you that it always puts me in a good mood. Hah! Sometimes I catch myself feeling and behaving very irritably because I am exhausted, cranky to the core, and resentful in my reluctant role as a (lame) understudy for his front lobes, pituitary gland and hypothalamus. Those of you who have a kid with poor executive functioning, poor memory, no hormones, and a non-working thirst mechanism will understand what I mean! And this is our life AFTER getting the benefits of oxytocin for his HO and hyperphagia. I am very well aware that we are very fortunate to no longer have to deal with the incessant hunger pangs, food stealing, and the resultant lifestyle of food locking and policing. Our lives were WAY harder before oxytocin but it is still far from easy.
Circling back to my original question, "how are you", I think one of the biggest tolls of special needs parenting/caregiving is the impact on relationships. If one is partnered or married, there is hopefully another parent/caregiver present to share the responsibilities of caregiving but the division of labor with caretaking duties are often not fairly shared between partners. If so, resentments may build up and the tenuousness of an already strained relationship can cause that relationship to falter and fail in the face of the daily stressors of special needs parenting/caregiving. Some marriages form stronger bonds in the face of these crises while other couples default into becoming mere co-parents to their special needs kid. The entire family's dynamics are bound to become affected by the "identified patient" (using a family therapy term) and siblings of the ill child may get lost in the shuffle and have to find their own way while their parents busy themselves with keeping their ill child alive and optimally well.
In my role as a caregiver, I have found myself becoming increasingly isolated from friends. As an extrovert, I have always put a lot of importance in my friendships and social life. Before he was diagnosed with the brain tumor, we had a very active social life with our many family friends. Over the years, I have let many of these friendships dissolve. A major reason for this was due to our need to protect Sasha from eating to excess (before we discovered oxytocin). After years of turning down social invitations from friends, many of these friends stopped inviting us, and who can blame them? Although the food issues played a significant role in our diminished social life as a family, I can't blame it all on the food. I must admit that I have isolated myself because having a child with Sasha's problems has made it painful (at times) to be around his (healthy and typical) peers and their parents. Poor social motivation for peers on Sasha's part has also increased his (and our) isolation since he has become more and more an outsider as the years have gone by. When I see his peers develop in normal and typical ways, it reminds me of what Sasha could have been had he not been sentenced with craniopharyngioma, and it makes me sad. I still have hope for Sasha and will continue to do what I can to optimize his life and future but I can't help but feel grief when I consider the healthy life he no longer has. I guess you could say that seeing his peers and being around their families fills me with a longing that I don't wish to feel. Avoiding these friends isn't the answer, I know, but I guess it's something I've done to cope with our circumstances, for better or for worse.
I am writing for myself to explore the emotional impact of living as a caregiver and to share these thoughts and feelings as it helps me feel less alone. I'd also like to invite my readers (you?) to share your thoughts and feelings about being a caregiver. If you've been feeling cooped up with your thoughts and feelings and want to share about your experiences as a caregiver, feel free to do so. Maybe it will help you feel less isolated, too?
So... how are you doing? How are you feeling? How has life been treating you of late?
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